As if 2020 hasn’t been crazy enough, it managed to get even worse for me. I recently had to make one of the most difficult decisions I’ve ever had to make in my life. My dog Karma has been with me for the last 11 years and we’ve been through thick and thin together. I rescued her from the pound but I truly believe she actually rescued me.
She was my constant companion through the hardest times of my life, including a very ugly divorce. Her health started declining rapidly and I realized I was going to have to make that call. I knew I couldn’t let her get to the point of pain just so that I wouldn’t have to miss her.
I truly believe that letting our beloved pets cross the rainbow bridge is a very selfless act and one of the hardest things we have to do for our furry friends. No matter how much it hurts, we have to do what is right by them and take care of them like they took care of us.
I have lost family members before and believe me when I say that this loss hurt as much as those. I struggled for weeks after this dreadful day and I didn’t know if or how I would ever move forward. I decided it was a good time to get a psychic reading with one of my favorite advisors from Psychic Source.
I needed guidance and advice so I gave him a call the next time he was available online. We talked for a while and had a meaningful, personal, and very helpful conversation. I am so glad I decided to reach out to him during my time of sadness and grief.
As much as my family sympathized with me, they just couldn’t grasp the depths of my emotions like a psychic advisor could. He felt my pain and anguish as if it were his own and helped me move forward from the loss. I feel better knowing my girl is in a better place waiting for me.
Below are some tips and ideas to help you say goodbye to a pet that I learned from the reading:
Gather Friends And Family For A Memorial Service
Holding a memorial service for your pet is a great way to say goodbye to your furry friend and get some closure. Closure is important because it finalizes everything and allows the loss to truly sink in. Once it’s sunk in, you can then acknowledge it, accept it, respect it, and process it.
Processing the loss lets you remember your pet with laughter and fondness instead of with sadness and grief. Before I received Karma’s ashes, a part of me was still in denial. I just couldn’t accept that she was gone. I didn’t want it to be true. I kept thinking that she’ll come running around the corner any second now.
This kept me from moving forward and cherishing the good times we spent together. Holding a memorial service for your pet with friends and family allows you to share the experience of celebrating your pet’s life. You can say a share some words about your pal and let others participate by having them recall any memories or stories they have.
Afterwards you can do something special to honor your pet. Some great ideas for this are making a group donation to an animal shelter in your pet’s name, placing a customized plaque or stone in your yard, or planting a tree in your pet’s favorite spot.
Acknowledge And Understand Your Grief
As I mentioned briefly above, acknowledging your sadness and allowing yourself to feel the pain is a very important part of the healing process. If you find yourself in denial or keep telling yourself that you shouldn’t feel sad, you’ll never be able to move forward in a healthy way.
You may think that once your pet has passed, there’s no point in feeling sad or crying for them but this is far from true. Give yourself permission to feel the pain and ignore anyone who thinks you’re being silly or tells you to stop being sad because “it was just an animal.”
They don’t know the bond you and your pet had so don’t be influenced by anyone else’s opinions. I found that speaking to the psychic during this stage of my grief was incredibly helpful. He helped me let it all out and understand that what I was feeling was perfectly normal and that I didn’t have to feel bad about it.
A lot of times just talking about your pet and your loss to someone takes so much weight off your shoulders. You are sharing them with the world and putting their story out into the universe. There are also support groups for grieving the loss of a pet so this might be a good option if there is one in your area.
Journaling your feelings and memories is also very freeing and helps relieve some of the pain. Keep a journal and take time to write down your emotions and how you’re feeling that day. There’s no reason to keep it all inside and doing so isn’t good for you.
You might consider speaking to a pet psychic if you want to reach their spirit and make sure they are happy and pain free. This is going to be my next move so I’ll make a post about my experience after!
Don’t Rush Yourself
It’s important that you don’t let anyone tell you when to stop feeling sad about your loss. There is no set time frame for the grieving process and you’re allowed to take all the time you need. You should allow yourself to work through your feelings and your loss at your own pace.
Never feel as if you’re “dragging it out” or hurting for too long and force yourself to move on. You’ll know when you’re ready and until then, don’t listen to anyone who thinks you’re being dramatic or too emotional. Again, nobody understands the bond between you and your pet better than you so don’t let anybody influence your grieving process.
While your friends and family may wonder why your pets collar and leash are still hung up, their toys still in the living room, or their bed still set out in full display, know that these things are perfectly normal. My girl loved looking out the window while I worked and it took me a long time before I was able to clean her nose prints off the glass.
I just knew I wasn’t ready and I waited until I was. Even though I’m almost there, I still have her food bowl set out and that will be my final step. You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone. Nobody expects you to hurry up and get over the loss of a family member and the same concept applies here.
Practice Calming Techniques
While you may want to take some time off school or work following the loss of your pet, it’s inevitable that the day will come when you have to return to your everyday life. I wish I could tell you to take all the time you need here but I know sometimes it’s just not possible.
The world is still turning and unfortunately your bills and responsibilities aren’t going to just disappear. I know firsthand how hard it can be to go work every day and act as if nothing is wrong while still grieving. It was very difficult for me the first couple of weeks but my psychic taught me how to start a calming practice.
This helped me get through my work days in a calm, professional manner. Both meditation and breathwork help your body release tension, nerves, and anxieties you’re holding onto. Decide what your calming practice will be and make it a point to use it when you start feeling your grief set in.
Stretching or practicing seated yoga at your desk for a few minutes allow your emotions to move out of your body for the time being. Some people choose to say a quick phrase or prayer when they feel themselves spiraling into sadness.
I have now made it a point to spend an extra couple of minutes after my morning meditation to just think about how blessed I was to have had Karma in my life for so long. I follow that up with a quick stretch routine and it gives me the power to conquer the day.
At night I like to just close my eyes and remember Karma in our happiest moments. It brings a smile to my face and reminds me that I did the right thing by shielding her from pain. Our feelings need an outlet and if we don’t give them one at a time that’s convenient, they could come out at the worst time possible.
Share Your Love With Shelter Pets
Volunteering at an animal shelter is a great way to help you move past your loss and help animals at the same time. However, I don’t suggest you do this when your loss is still fresh. You want to make sure you are further along in your grief process before embarking on this one.
When you decide you are ready to share your love of animals, volunteering at a shelter gets you out of the house, makes a difference in another animals life, and creates fun memories with other furry creatures. Don’t feel like you’re “cheating” on your pet or that you’re replacing them.
Animals are very selfless and pure creatures that don’t have these types of feelings. They would want to know that you are helping other animals feel some form of happiness. One reason you don’t want to do this before you’ve had time to grieve is that you might be tempted to bring one of those pets home.
While this may be a good option down the line, I suggest you hold off on doing so until some time has passed. Getting a new pet too soon can lead to unreasonable expectations and regret. You also run the risk of projecting your negative feelings onto the new pet and this isn’t fair to them.
You need to heal before you make such a big commitment all over again. In the meantime, volunteering with them as often as you’d like helps you move forward in a healthy way. When you do think you’re ready for a new pet, an online psychic from one of these reputable networks can help you decide what type of pet would be best for you.
I know the idea that one day you’ll look back on your memories and laugh instead of cry might seem impossible right now but trust me, you will get there. It just takes time. Don’t rush it, don’t feel bad about it, and don’t make any big decisions before you’re ready to.
Remember, your pet loved you so much and would not want you to mourn them forever
They would want you to live your best life and be happy. They would never want to see you so sad when you gave them so much love and joy. I know that if they could they would be right there by your side to help dry your tears and comfort your soul.
From the bottom of my heart, here’s my deepest condolences if you’re experiencing this loss and heartache. Losing a pet is never easy but the happiness they bring to our lives is so worth it.