The Harmful Effects Of Living With Unresolved Guilt
Are you suffering from unresolved guilt in your life? A feeling of guilt is your bodies’ way of responding to emotional distress. It’s common to feel guilty when we believe we caused harm to someone or something, either physically or emotionally. Almost everyone (who has feelings of course) will feel guilty every now and then in their lives.
The problem is that a lot of people don’t think it’s causing any negative impact in their lives, since it isn’t a constant feeling and instead comes in spurts. This is wrong though. All of the guilty feelings you feel here and there add up in your lifetime and can actually cause you major damage.
Unless you resolve them, all of your past guilty feelings don’t just magically go away by themselves. So, every time you experience new feelings of guilt, these gets stacked on top of the guilt that was already there. Below are some of the negative consequences of living with so much unresolved guilt in your body.
It Affects Your Ability To Think Clearly
The most common consequences of carrying around unresolved guilt are poor concentration, difficulty learning new things, and bad short-term memory. Do you often find yourself struggling to find the right word you’re thinking of while talking?
Or mean to say one thing but end up saying something else? Do simple, everyday words and memories escape your mind when you need them the most? If so, this could be a sign of brain fog caused by holding onto unresolved guilt. Being so racked with guilt that you literally can’t even think straight is definitely not good for you.
When you are overcome with feelings of guilt, you naturally feel stressed out as well. When you’re stressed out, you may tend to seek out comfort foods to help relieve some tension and stress. Usually, these comfort foods that you’re reaching for aren’t very healthy and the effects they have on your body can add up quickly.
This can cause you to gain weight and even develop medical issues. One way to resolve this is to make it a habit to only eat healthy and nutritious foods on a daily basis, even when you’re not stressed. Become accustomed to eating these healthier foods and then when you do start to stress eat, you’ll be more likely to reach for those foods instead of unhealthy foods such as donuts or ice cream.
It Can Cause You To Feel Depressed
This one is pretty common sense really. It’s almost impossible to enjoy your life and keep an optimistic and positive attitude when you’re being consumed by guilt. You might even have thoughts or feelings that tell you that you don’t deserve to have a good life because of the things you’ve done or harm you’ve caused someone.
Have you ever been in situations where you should feel excited and ecstatic but just weren’t? Things such as your graduation, your wedding, or even the birth of a child? Or do you find that you just don’t get excited very easily in general about anything in your life? This could be a mental block caused unresolved guilt.
It Can Lead You To Harm Yourself
This one kind of ties into the one above about not being able to enjoy things as much as you should. It’s very common for people who carry a lot of unresolved guilt to feel that not only are they not worthy of a good life, but that they actually deserve to be punished with pain and suffering in their life.
They believe that if they suffer, then that makes them even with what they have done to others. There are even some cultures who believe that pain equals cleansing and purification of the soul. So, in order to fix the harm they have caused, they feel that they themselves must experience pain by self-punishing themselves.
Self-punishment can be a lot of different things, from physically hurting yourself to talking down to yourself. If you engage in negative self-talk, you can change the way you think about yourself and talk to yourself by using positive affirmations. If you are physically hurting yourself, you need to get yourself some medical attention right now.
Managing Your Unresolved Guilt
The best way to deal with guilt that has been unresolved is to actually RESOLVE it! It needs to be handled and dealt with for you to start moving forward in your life to your full potential. This could include making a list of the wrongs you’ve done and going down your list apologizing to the individuals you affected one by one.
Contact the person and tell them you would like to apologize to them and seek their forgiveness. You’d be amazed at how much closure you get just by hearing the words “I forgive you”. This alone can change things mentally in yourself from negative to positive.
If it’s not possible to contact them for an apology because you can’t locate them or they refuse to talk to you, you can still get your apology out into words by writing them a letter. Put all of your feelings into the letter and don’t skimp on the details. You can then choose to mail it to them if that’s possible, and if it isn’t, then reread it a few times and then safely burn it in a fireplace or a fire pit as a way to put that apology into the universe and cleanse yourself of the guilt..
If the person you are wanting to apologize to has passed away, you can still reach them with the help of a psychic medium. Do your research and only go through genuine and trustworthy psychic networks for this. They only employ talented psychic mediums who are able to make contact with the spirits of the deceased, communicate with them, and pass your apology on to them.
This is also great because the spirit of the deceased can give you messages in return through the psychic and you may hear words you have been longing to hear for a long time. Words that can help you accept what has happened and move on.
You could even discover that things were a big miscommunication while they were alive and you didn’t cause them as much harm as you thought they did. If you did wrong them, hearing that they forgive you can be life-changing.
It’s important that you understand everyone makes mistakes and nobody is perfect. Even the person who you wronged has more than likely wronged someone else in their life and felt bad for it. The point isn’t to keep being upset about it, but to find a way to forgive yourself.
When you fail to forgive yourself, you’re not only hurting yourself but you’re hurting others near you that love and care about you. It’s hard to be the best person for them when you’re full of unresolved guilt. Don’t let pride get in the way of acknowledging your wrongdoing and reaching out to that person to try and make it better.
If you’re being affected by years; worth of guilt inside your body but can’t seem to find a way to resolve it all, don’t be afraid to speak to an authentic psychic! They can help you look inside of yourself to see what’s blocking your energy and fix it so you can live your best life.