What A Psychic Taught Me About Death and Divorce
During the lowest point of my life, I was in need of help and looking for spiritual advice. After being conned by a fraudulent mother/daughter “psychic” team, I finally found a group of psychics I could trust. They helped me turn my life around and I have gotten so much sage advice from my favorite psychics. One of my all-time favorite consults was one where the psychic and I spoke about death and divorce. It was very eye-opening for me and I have held the information close to me since.
When we think of death, we usually picture cemeteries, grave sites, tombstones and funerals. Witnessing a friend or family member take their last breath or endure any sort of suffering is such an awful thing that none of us want to do. It takes away the physical connections we had with that person and leaves grief and sadness in its place. Death, however, has so many different sides to it. Breaking up with lovers, friends, or even business partners are also a form of death, whether we know it or not.
The sight of the Death card during Tarot readings usually stirs up feelings of fear for most people. Almost everyone interprets it as meaning that they or someone they know is going to die. The truth is, it simply signifies the end of something. Doesn’t necessarily have to do with the death of a person.
For example, the Death Tarot card could mean that a divorce is in the future; the end of a marriage.
Take two individuals who are over-the-moon in love with each other when they first meet. They constantly make plans to see each other, they both want the same things from each other, they both imagine themselves with each other for the remainder of their days. They feel a magical connection to each other and often finish each other’s thoughts and sentences. They plan their future together- to get married, buy a house, have children, etc.
Now fast forward several years and they have gone from best friends to total strangers living under the same roof. They go through the motions of cohabiting but it feels more like a roommate situation. They can no longer count on each other to be there for them. The spark and plans that they had for each other vanished. Their hopes and dreams for the future died.
Divorce has to do with the individual who is no longer a friend you can count on, and that you feel so separated from. It deals with money issues, trust issues, personality differences, children, betrayals and selfishness. It makes it to where the person we once felt so in tune with, is now a stranger we don’t feel any connection to.
But when we think about it, how many issues do you think were never discussed and worked out before marriage took place? And now these issues that were ignored are the chains that are squeezing the life out of the marriage.
Take Time To Grieve A Divorce
There almost seems to be a long silence, a “hush”, after death that nobody talks about. God gives us time to process the painful loss, to grieve, and to release our emotions. We need to take advantage of this time and work through our feelings instead of trying to hurry up and feel better about the situation.
With divorce, a majority of us try to just “give over it” and want to move on from it as quickly as possible. We see it as a “stain” and a sign of failure on our behalf. Or we blame the other person 100% for everything, never stopping to think what we could have done differently. One thing that I love about consulting psychics is their ability to make us look deep within OURSELVES. This is where we can see what areas we need to work on to be better people.
Oftentimes, the ending of business relationships, friendships, family ties, and marriages give people the opportunity to truly wake up and start living life to their fullest potential. Don’t look at divorce as a bad thing that happened to you. Distancing ourselves from toxic people and becoming a new person is a form of rebirth. Spiritual rebirth gives us the chance to start over as new and improved individuals.
Following divorce, we have to deal not only with mourning the loss of our life with that person, but also with financial changes, legal paperwork, loss of our own identity, and sometimes loss of friends or family we gained through our ex. It is so important that we take the time to truly deal with these losses and mourn them appropriately.
Never Stop Improving Yourself
I am not saying that divorce is an easy thing to go through. It can be really awful and complicated. A lot of us have a fear of being alone which causes us to jump straight into a new relationship. The psychic taught me that ironically, by doing so, our new partner is going to end up being a lot like the partner we just divorced. Reason being, we never took the time to work on the issues that caused our marriage to fail in the first place.
Sure, it will be a different body, a different face, etc. but same underlying issues and more than likely same habits that we were unhappy with. Next thing we know, we find ourselves dealing with the same patterns and problems from the past because they were never resolved.
Ever since I learned that, seeing people rush straight into a new relationship right after divorce worries me. I learned that we need to experience sleeping alone, living alone, being alone during day to day activities after divorce. The psychic believes that there is a certain beauty within the pain of experiencing this feeling. This pain allows us to slowly come to terms with going from a partnership to being on our own again.
I learned that in order to love someone new, we need to know that the loss of one person cannot just be magically replaced with a new person without there being some comparing of our failed relationship. Sure, sometimes it is solely the fault of our ex and we had nothing to do with the marriage falling apart. In this case, perhaps a new person could be exactly what we need, but 99% of the time, we had a lot more to do with it not working out than we thought. Understanding what we could have done differently and working on our personal flaws will save us a lot of heartache in the future.
Couples that have been married for what seems like forever are a testament to what happens when we make respect, patience, and understanding a priority in our relationship. It is so amazing to see these long-term relationships in a world where divorce is going up at an alarming rate. It is possible for us to have a everlasting relationship like this after after divorce, but it is important that we work on ourselves first.
Maybe we were too demanding, maybe we expected perfection for our spouse, maybe we could not see past our way of doing things and got angry when our spouse had a different method than ours. Perhaps we are insecure with ourselves and that caused us to be extremely jealous, to the point of smothering our ex. Maybe we lack compassion and didn’t forgive easily when our spouse made mistakes. Psychic readings are an excellent way to see what our personal weaknesses and shortcomings are. They help us find ways to work on ourselves and improve as individuals.
We Cannot Escape Death
No matter how much we try to evade Death, we know that we cannot ever escape it for good. I used to fear death but thanks to my psychic, I now have a more positive understanding of it. She reminded me that though our days may be numbered, that just means we have to make the best of our lives while we are still breathing.
We can do so much good in the world while we are still alive. Go out and help whenever and wherever you can. To quote the great Ralph Waldo Emerson; “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”
When we eventually do pass, our physical body may no longer be around, but our souls will live on through our energy and we can bring comfort to those we left behind with the help of genuine spirit mediums.
I learned that even though the small little “Deaths” we experience while we are alive may seem like “the end of the world” at the time, we still wake up every single day and fight through them. We overcome them and they teach us lessons that make us wiser, stronger and more resilient. We are only given what we can handle and we rise from the ashes to see another day, just like the Phoenix.