Breaking up can be a really difficult thing to go through, and moving on with your life without this person in it can be a painful challenge on its own. Since most of us weren’t born with the ability to look into the future and see what’s in store for us (we leave that to professional psychics!), we don’t know when our feelings and emotions will calm down and our lives will get back in order.
Recovering from a breakup can take as few as a couple of weeks, to as long as several years and when we’re freshly separated and feeling horrible, time can seem endless and it feel like we’ll never recover from the split. When the breakup was not mutual, the one who got broken up with might feel confused, angry, resentful, used, etc.
They might feel heartbroken over the fact that their partner can just end things with them and walk away like nothing. On the other hand, the person who did the breaking up might experience feelings of guilt, sadness, anxiety and shame.
Unfortunately, breaking up isn’t always a clear-cut case
Sometimes people have to break up with someone they care about for reasons beyond their control, and it isn’t easy. Have you ever had to leave someone you had feelings for because it was just obvious that the universe wouldn’t let you two be happy for whatever reason even though you loved them?
If so, you’re probably familiar with the feelings of utter anguish and despair. If not, let me just tell you that it’s something that can cause you depression and frustration at the same time. Even when the separation is mutual, there can still be feelings of love or attachment that make being attracted to someone else seem like an impossible task.
Sometimes people have to separate because they have different desires for the future, they have to move to different states and don’t think they can be in a long-distance relationship, due to infidelities, etc. There are so many reasons that people break up and they aren’t always the stereotypical, “I no longer love you and I don’t want to see you anymore” reasons that we might assume.
When the breakup is more complicated than that, it’s harder to move on with your life because there could still be feelings of love and affection involved. These feelings might stay with you way longer than you wish they would.
It’s usually after these feelings have stuck with you for far too long that people decide to consult a psychic for help with their situation. People are usually desperate to know when or if they’ll get over their exes and move forward with their lives.
During one of my psychic readings, I decided to ask the psychic questions about this subject
She was very informative and I learned a lot of things from her that I thought I would share with my readers in case you’re going through a breakup that you just can’t seem to recover from. The psychic told me that when people are desperately stuck on their ex for a very long time after a breakup, they’re going to have to work extra hard to heal themselves and it has to come from within.
Psychics cannot give you a special love potion drink that will make all the pain and heartache go away. You have to find your own way back to happiness, and if a psychic ever tells you that for a large amount of money they can perform love spells to get your ex back, you need to get out of there as soon as possible.
Due to free will, psychics aren’t able to make someone do something they don’t want to do. Psychics can only advise you and help you get YOUR state of mind back on the right track so that you can heal and move on. They can help you look within yourself and offer insight into what YOU specifically can do, based on your personality, aura, astrological sign, spirit guides, etc. to get yourself healed and ready to face the future with a positive attitude.
People consult psychics for help in getting their relationship questions answered all the time
It’s important that you know how to avoid getting scammed during these readings because you are more vulnerable when you’re experiencing love troubles and heartache. A lot of fraudulent psychics take advantage of that feeling and prey on you for all you’ve got.
This is the reason why I personally will only get my readings from a psychic network- they have been tested, verified, and can be trusted. Check out my list of top-rated, genuine psychic readers here.
If, however, you choose to go with a different psychic, it’s a good idea to keep information from them during the first consult to avoid getting scammed. What I mean by this is, when you first start talking, have the psychic give you a cold reading on your ex’s name and date of birth.
Let them tell you what their first impression is before you start giving them too much info that they can then use. If they do a cold reading for you with minimal information provided and it all hits home for you, then you can continue the reading.
The psychic I spoke to told me that people who consult her after a breakup, in her opinion, don’t ask the right questions. They usually ask her things like, “Will I ever stop feeling sad? Do they still love me? Was breaking up a good idea? Am I not attractive anymore?” and other things like that.
Below are the best five questions you can ask a psychic if you need help moving on from a breakup.
Asking a psychic why your relationship ended not only verifies or disqualifies the psychic depending on how much you went into detail beforehand based on their answers, but it can also bring motivations and reasons to light that you hadn’t even thought of before.
Perhaps in your gloomy state, it was difficult for you to look beyond the situation and discover other reasons. Asking this question can help you understand the breakup with a different with a different perspective. It can be hard to see and understand certain things on your own when you’re stuck in your feelings and in an unhappy state.
This is true regardless of the reasons for the breakup, whether you were unknowingly doing something your ex didn’t like, your ex had personal issues that didn’t allow them to commit to a relationship, or even something as simple as the fact that you two just weren’t meant to be together.
The psychic suggested asking questions that help you take away lessons from the relationship. She believes that if you don’t takeaway things learned from the experience, you’re probably going to have those same problems in your other relationships.
It’s important to have learned things from the relationship so that your next one can make use of those valuable lessons and have a better chance of survival, instead of being stuck in a viscous cycle of breakups and heartache.
Ask the psychic to shed some light on the key lessons you should take away from the situation and work on applying them in the future.
My psychic believes that this is a valuable question to ask because knowledge is power. If you don’t ask this question then you may not be mentally prepared for the moment it happens, if it is meant to happen.
Also, if you don’t ask, then you may always have that little voice in the back of your head that is hopeful about this happening and you could be sorely disappointed if it doesn’t. Even if the answer isn’t what you were wanting it to be, it’s important that you know the truth so that you can begin processing it and accepting it.
The psychic told me that when she is asked this question, she sees what her cards tell her and if the answer is “no”, she makes sure to be very honest and tell her clients upfront that it’s a no, but she also gives them all the reasons why it isn’t going to happen.
Having an explanation makes it easier to understand and move on. So don’t be afraid to ask your psychic if you two will be together again one day, but make sure you are fully prepared to receive the answer!
In order to meet and be with the person you are destined to be with, you’re going to have to move on with your life past the failed relationship, and in order to move on from it, you need to make sure you completely understand the reality of it all and not be afraid to ask the big questions.
If you’re having a hard time finding a silver lining to your situation, that’s a good time to seek the help of someone who was gifted with sixth sense and who can see things we aren’t able to. The psychic I spoke to told me that when consulting the help of a psychic, don’t focus the questions on how to get your ex back.
As I mentioned earlier, we all have free will and you have to respect people’s decisions, even if you don’t agree with their decision. Don’t make the reading about how to force someone to get back with you, but instead make the reading about how to move on.
When people ask her how to get over someone, oftentimes she tells them that they need to feel the pain. To really feel it and sit with it for a little bit. She doesn’t believe that you can heal without addressing the fact that you were hurt by someone and acknowledging how they hurt you and how they made you feel.
She tells her clients to think about what happened and meditate. Breath in and breath out while feeling how you feel. If they feel depressed, she tells them to feel the heartache instead of trying to mask it.
However, she also stresses not to stay in that state for too long because that can have adverse effects. If you stay depressed about something too long and mull it over too much, it can keep you from letting that person go.
Feel the sadness without trying to push it away, but also don’t let it consume you. Acknowledge it, feel it, accept it, and move on from it. She also warns her clients about going on their ex’s social media accounts and advises them to think about blocking them so they can’t contact them.
If it is meant to be, it will happen and your ex will find a way but leaving yourself wide open to them by not cutting contact with them keeps you with the hope and longing that they will contact you any day now and that you’ll be right there to receive them.
Don’t set yourself up for something you’re not sure will happen. Instead, make it difficult for that to happen and accept that it won’t, and if it was meant to be then they will find a way and make it happen. The psychic believes that surrounding yourself with friends and family and doing fun things with them is a great way to heal.
And while it’s normal to vent to your friends about the fate of the relationship in detail, she says that you should stop talking about it so much after a month or so has gone by. You might not be able to help the way you feel about it all, but nothing good comes from dwelling on it for months afterwards and burdening your friends about it constantly.
No matter how good it might feel to get it all out to your friends, going over it again and again isn’t going to help you in any way and may even alienate some of your biggest supporters. You can’t move forward if you’re always stuck in the past.
The psychic admitted that being asked to predict when the client will be in a relationship again is a difficult question to answer, but still believes it’s an important one to ask. The reason she finds it difficult to answer is because people usually want her to tell them that they’ll meet their next lover very soon, like within the next week.
But even if they meet someone in the next week, it may not be the person they are meant to be with or be a good match for them in the long run. So instead of asking a psychic when you’ll meet your next partner, ask instead when you’ll meet the person who is good for your heart and soul and be genuinely in love together.
Don’t ask this question if you aren’t the patient type though. Soulmates don’t come by when you want them to, they come by when the time is right and sometimes that involves waiting. Make sure you are willing to wait for the right person before asking this question, or you may be disappointed during the reading.
Anyone can get together and date quickly, but meeting your Prince Charming is such a special, life changing event because it is a rare occurrence. Waiting for your Prince Charming is absolutely worth the wait. You’ll know when you’ve met the right person for you when there are no obstacles or resistance and everything feels fun, comfortable, and fluid versus awkward, nerve-racking and forced.
There may be some obstacles you’ll have to overcome but they won’t be gigantic, just more situational and workable. If you find yourself in a relationship where you’re constantly breaking up and then getting back together, that’s resistance and a sign of too many difficult obstacles.
When you’re right for each other, you’re able to work through your problems calmly and effectively without breaking up over them. The psychic stressed to me that before you ever even meet that person, you need to make sure you have unpacked your emotional baggage and worked through any issues you may have.
You need to understand what went wrong in your previous relationships and understand what you might be able to change in yourself to make sure you give it your best shot. You also need to be fully over your ex before proceeding with a more meaningful relationship.
If your ex did wronged you and caused you pain, it would benefit you greatly to forgive them, even if it doesn’t seem possible. This forgiveness is more for you than it is for them. All of this can be hard work and takes time and dedication, but it pays off in the long run.
My psychic ended the conversation by telling me that love is a complicated subject and that it can be difficult to move forward when the client is stubborn or set in their ways. If her client is more accepting, understanding, and willing to learn and change, then they are the ones most likely to get past the situation.
They are the ones who can take an unfortunate event, such as a breakup, and learn valuable lessons from it. This helps them accept the separation and find closure. They can then move on with someone else and take everything they learned with them into that relationship to make it the best they can.
If you’re experiencing a breakup, make sure to give yourself time to feel sad about it and reflect on the relationship. Look deep within yourself and don’t rely on someone to wave a magic wand over you that makes all your feelings, emotions and sadness disappear. The easy way out isn’t the way to get lasting results that stay with you for the rest of your life.