Breaking up and moving through life without that person can be difficult and painful.
Most of us weren’t born with the ability to look into the future (we leave that to professional psychics!) We don’t know when our feelings and emotions will calm down and our lives will get back in order.
Recovering from a breakup can take as few as a couple of weeks to as long as several years. When freshly separated and feeling horrible, time can seem endless, and it feels like we’ll never recover from the split.
When the breakup was not mutual, the one who got broken up with might feel confused, angry, resentful, used, etc.
They might feel heartbroken that their partner can just end things with them and walk away like nothing. On the other hand, the person who did the breaking up might experience feelings of guilt, sadness, anxiety, and shame.
Breaking Up Isn’t Always A Clear-Cut Case
Sometimes people have to break up with someone they care about for reasons beyond their control, which isn’t easy.
Have you ever had to leave someone you had feelings for because it was apparent the universe wouldn’t let you two be happy for whatever reason, even though you loved them?
If so, you’re probably familiar with the feelings of utter anguish and despair. If not, let me tell you that it can cause depression and frustration simultaneously.
Even when the separation is mutual, there can still be feelings of love or attachment that make being attracted to someone else seem like an impossible task.
Sometimes people have to separate because they have different wishes for the future. Maybe they have to move to different states and don’t think they can be in a long-distance relationship, or one wants children while the other doesn’t, etc.
There are many reasons people break up. Not all of them are stereotypical, like, “I no longer love you and I don’t want to see you anymore.”
When the breakup is more complicated, it’s harder to move on with your life because feelings of love and affection could still be involved. These feelings might stay with you way longer than you wish they would.
People usually decide to consult a psychic after these feelings have stuck with them for far too long. They’re typically desperate to know when or if they’ll get over their ex and move forward with their lives.
Psychics are a great resource to turn to because of their extrasensory perception and powerful intuition. They are experts when it comes to love and life.
Questions I Asked A Psychic About Breakups During A Reading
She was very informative, and I learned a lot from her. I thought I’d share with my readers in case they’re going through a breakup they can’t seem to recover from.
The psychic told me that when people are desperately stuck on their ex for a very long time after a breakup, they’ll have to work extra hard to heal themselves. This healing has to come from within.
Psychics can’t give you a special love potion to eliminate all the pain and heartache. You have to find your way back to happiness.
If a psychic ever tells you that for a large amount of money, they can perform love spells to get your ex back, you need to get out of there as soon as possible.
Due to free will, psychics can’t make someone do something they don’t want. Psychics can only advise you and help you get YOUR state of mind back on the right track so that you can heal and move on.
They can help you look within yourself and offer insight into what YOU can do, based on your personality, aura, astrological sign, spirit guides, etc., to get yourself healed and ready to face the future with a positive attitude.
People Consult Psychics For Relationship Help All The Time
Because you’re more vulnerable when experiencing love troubles and heartache, it’s important to avoid getting scammed during these readings. Many fraudulent psychics take advantage of that feeling and prey on you for all you’ve got.
For this reason, I only get my readings from psychic networks that have been tested, verified, and can be trusted. Check out my list of top-rated, genuine psychic readers here.
If you choose to go with a psychic not on the list, it’s a good idea to keep information from them during the first consult.
What I mean by this is, when you start talking, have the psychic give you a cold reading on your ex’s name and date of birth.
Let them tell you their first impression before you start giving them too much info that they can use. If they do a cold reading for you with minimal information, and it all hits home, it’s safe to continue.
In her opinion, the psychic I spoke to told me that people who consult her after a breakup don’t ask the right questions.
They usually ask her, “Will I ever stop feeling sad? Do they still love me? Was breaking up a good idea? Am I not attractive anymore?” and other similar questions.
Below are the best five questions you can ask a psychic if you need help moving on from a breakup.
Based on their answers, asking why your relationship ended verifies or disqualifies the psychic, depending on the details you gave. It can also bring motivations and reasons to light that you hadn’t even thought of before.
Perhaps it was difficult for you to look beyond the situation and discover other reasons in your heartbroken state. Asking this question can help you understand the breakup from a different perspective.
It can be hard to see and understand certain things when you’re stuck in your feelings and unhappy. This is true regardless of the reasons for the breakup.
Whether you were unknowingly doing something your ex didn’t like, your ex had personal issues that didn’t allow them to commit to a relationship, or even something as simple as the fact that the two of you just weren’t meant to be together.
The psychic suggested asking questions that help you take away lessons from the relationship. She believes that if you don’t learn lessons from the experience, you’ll probably have those same problems in future relationships.
It’s essential to learn things from the relationship so that your next relationship can benefit from those valuable lessons.
This negative experience can give your new relationship a better chance of survival instead of being stuck in a vicious cycle of breakups and heartache.
Ask the psychic to shed some light on the key lessons you should take away from the situation and work on applying them in the future.
My psychic believes this is a valuable question because knowledge is power. If you don’t ask this, you may not be prepared mentally for when it happens if it’s meant to happen.
Also, if you don’t ask, you may always have that little voice in your head that’s hopeful about this reunion, and you could be sorely disappointed if it doesn’t happen.
Even if the answer isn’t what you wanted, you must know the truth to begin processing it and accepting it. The psychic told me that when people ask her this question, she sees what her cards tell her.
If the answer is “no,” she makes sure to be honest and tell the clients upfront that it’s a no. However, she also gives them all the reasons why it won’t happen.
Having an explanation makes it easier to understand and move on. Don’t be afraid to ask your psychic if you’ll be together again one day, but make sure you’re fully prepared for the answer!
You’ll have to move past your failed relationship to meet the person you’re destined to be with. To do this, ensure you completely understand the reality and don’t be afraid to ask the big questions.
If you’re having a hard time finding a silver lining to your situation, that’s an excellent time to seek the help of someone gifted with a sixth sense and who can see things we can’t.
The psychic I spoke with told me it’s important not to focus the questions on getting your ex back. As I mentioned, we all have free will, and you must respect people’s decisions, even if you disagree with them.
Don’t focus the reading on how to force someone to get back with you. Instead, focus the reading on moving on with your life.
When people ask her how to get over someone, she often tells them they need to feel the pain. To really feel it and sit with it for a little bit.
She doesn’t believe you can heal without addressing and acknowledging the fact that someone hurt you. She tells her clients to think about what happened and meditate.
Breath in and breath out while feeling your feelings. If they feel depressed, she tells them to feel the heartache instead of trying to mask it.
However, she also stresses not to stay in that state for too long because doing so can have adverse effects. Staying depressed about it too long and mulling it over too much can keep you from letting your ex go.
Feel the sadness without trying to push it away, but don’t let it consume you. Acknowledge, feel, accept, and move on from it.
The psychic also warns against going on an ex’s social media accounts. On the contrary, she suggests blocking them to eliminate the temptation of contacting them.
Whatever Needs To Happen Will Happen
If a relationship is meant to be, it’ll be, and that person will find a way to you. Leaving yourself open to them by not cutting contact with them keeps you hopeful and longing that they will contact you any day now and that you’ll be right there to receive them.
Don’t set yourself up for something you’re not sure will happen. Instead, make it difficult for that to happen and accept that it won’t. That way, if it does, you’ll know it was in your destiny.
The psychic believes surrounding yourself with friends and family and doing fun things with them is great for healing. Venting to your friends about the relationship’s fate in detail is expected.
However, the psychic warns against continuing to do so for longer than a few months. You might not be able to help how you feel about it all, but nothing good comes from dwelling on it for months afterward and constantly burdening your friends about it.
No matter how good it might feel to get it all out to your friends, repeatedly talking about your failed relationship won’t help you in any way.
On the contrary, it could even alienate some of your biggest supporters. You can’t move forward if you’re stuck in the past.
The psychic admitted that being asked to predict when the client will be in a relationship again is a difficult question to answer but still believes it’s an important one to ask.
She finds it difficult to answer because people usually want her to tell them that they’ll meet their next lover very soon, like within the next week.
But even if they meet someone in the next week, it may not be the one they’re meant to be with or be a good match for them in the long run.
So instead of asking a psychic when you’ll meet your next partner, ask instead when you’ll meet the person who is good for your heart and soul and with who you’ll be genuinely in love.
Don’t ask this question if you aren’t the patient type, though. Soulmates don’t appear when you want them to; they emerge when the time is right, and sometimes that involves waiting.
Make sure you’re willing to wait for the right person before asking this question; otherwise, you could be disappointed.
Anyone can meet and date, but meeting your Prince Charming is a unique, life-changing event because it’s a rare occurrence. Waiting for your Prince Charming is absolutely worth the wait.
You’ll know when you’ve met the right person for you when there are no obstacles or resistance, and everything feels fun, comfortable, and fluid versus awkward, nerve-racking, and forced.
Every Relationship Has It’s Issues
There may be some obstacles you’ll have to overcome, but they won’t be gigantic, just more situational and workable.
If you find yourself in a relationship where you’re constantly breaking up and then getting back together, that’s resistance and a sign of too many difficult obstacles.
When you’re right for each other, you can work through your problems calmly and effectively without breaking up over them.
The psychic stressed that before you ever even meet that person, you must unpack your emotional baggage. You have to have worked through any issues you may have.
It’s important to understand what went wrong in your previous relationships and what you might be able to change in yourself to make sure you give it your best shot.
You must also be over your ex before forming a more meaningful relationship. If your ex wronged you and caused you pain, it would benefit you greatly to forgive them, even if it doesn’t seem possible.
This forgiveness is more for you than it is for them. Forgiveness can be hard work and takes time and dedication, but it pays off in the long run.
My psychic ended the reading by telling me that love is a complicated subject and that it can be challenging to move forward when the client is stubborn or set in their ways.
If her client is more accepting, understanding, and willing to learn and change, then they will most likely get past the situation. They’re the ones who can take an unfortunate event, such as a breakup, and learn valuable lessons from it.
These lessons help them accept the separation and find closure. They can then move on with someone else and take everything they learned into that relationship to make it the best they can.
If you’re experiencing a breakup, give yourself time to feel sad about it and reflect on the relationship. Look deep within yourself, and don’t rely on someone to wave a magic wand over you that makes all your feelings, emotions, and sadness disappear.
The easy way out isn’t the way to get lasting results that stay with you for the rest of your life.