When you envision meeting the love of your life for the first time, do you picture them just swooping into your life and engulfing you in a sea of love and passion, while fireworks are bursting in the air above? That’s how they make it seem in the movies, right?
Unfortunately, the movies could have given you wrong impression of what it’s like to meet your Prince Charming. Cinema and the arts can steer you in the wrong way and can make it to where you don’t realize that you’ve actually been friends with the love of your life this whole time.
It’s not unheard of to fall in love with a person you’ve been friends with for a while. Sometimes it can be hard to realize that this is happening because the process is subtler and less like the explosion of fireworks you see onscreen. If you’re not aware that you’re falling for this friend, you might miss the opportunity to make the move from just friends to lovers.
It’s important that you know how to recognize when your feelings for someone you’ve always considered a friend are turning into something deeper. There are several ways to know, but I’ll discuss the 5 most common ones in this article.
It’s perfectly normal to feel your anxiety rise once you’re aware of what you’re feeling. Take a deep breath and give your nerves a chance to calm down. You may want to sit and meditate on this information for a little.
Give yourself time to explore these emotions before you immediately share them with that person. This will let you share your feelings with them in a well-thought out manner that they can better understand.
You Love Spending Your Time With Them
When you need someone to be there for you, who do you turn to? Whether you’re griping about a disagreement you had with your mother, or you’re celebrating a pay raise, who is it that you can’t wait to tell?
Your aunt, sister, girlfriends, or your special friend? If you realize that most often it’s your friend in question that you reach out to, that could be a sign that you’re developing romantic feelings for them.
Particularly if you seek them both in good times and in bad times because that means you know they care about all aspects of your life, not just the great parts.
Another way to know is if you find yourself calling them up to do something any chance you get some free time.
Maybe you used to only hang out with them in the company of other friends but you find yourself contacting just them more and more lately because you like how it feels when it’s just the two of you experiencing things together.
You Start Having Feelings Of Jealousy
Do you find yourself feeling protective and possessive when you see or hear other people talking to or spending time with your friend lately?
Another common sign that your feelings towards your friend are turning more into feelings of love is if you start having feelings of jealousy, especially if you didn’t use to feel jealous before.
If you feel your blood start warming and your anger rising when your friend tells you they went on are going on a date with someone, chances are, you want to be the one they’re dating.
If hearing about their love life makes you sad instead of happy for them, that’s a telling sign.
You may not have known it before but think about it- if you don’t have romantic feelings for your friend, why wouldn’t you want them to go out on dates and meet someone new?
You Suddenly Feel Nervous Around Them
If you used to feel relaxed and at-ease near your friend before but now find yourself nervous and jittery, this could be another clue that your feelings towards them have grown into something bigger.
This nervous feeling usually happens when you begin to acknowledge your feelings towards that person but don’t yet know how to proceed with them.
It can be stressful if you don’t know how to move forward with your friend and are afraid of making the first move for fear that they don’t feel the same way as you and now you’ve made it awkward for the two of you.
Another reason you could suddenly start feeling nervous around them could be because you have now started worrying about how you look to them.
Maybe you used to feel comfortable meeting them for a morning walk barefaced and wearing comfy sweatpants but now you feel as if you need to do your makeup and wear your most flattering jeans when you go on a walk.
You Place A Lot Of Trust In Them
It’s no secret that trust plays a huge role in relationships. Even though it’s so important, It can be one of the hardest things to establish in a partnership.
If you and your friend already trust each other with everything, you’re already more than halfway there and that says a lot. You were willing to take the time to get to know this person enough to realize that you can trust them.
There’s a reason you put in that much time and effort into the friendship. Maybe you trust everyone in your group of friends but feel like you can trust this friend the most if you could only pick one person to confide your secrets to.
You know that your bond is special and that they won’t spill your secrets to the others behind your back. The same applies for you keeping their secrets safe- you treasure their trust and don’t want to let them down.
You Were Broken Up With Over Them
If you’ve ever dated someone else but they broke up with you because of your friend, that’s a pretty big sign that there is something deeper going on.
Even though you couldn’t see it, the person you tried to date could clearly see that you are more interested in your friend than in them and they felt like a third wheel in the relationship.
This is especially true if you were always wanting to mix your date and your friends together but focused more on your friend.
Perhaps they noticed you and your friend always laughing at inside jokes together and not wanting to let them in on it.
Or maybe you were constantly bringing up fun memories that the two of you experienced in the past and recalling them to the person you were dating. That person broke up with you because they could tell before you could that you were in love with your friend.
Another way to know that you’re falling for your friend is if you can’t stop comparing people you try to date to your friend. If the people you try to date seem disappointing to you in comparison to your friend, that says a lot. If it seems like no one else can seem to make you as happy as your friend does, you have some thinking to do.
If any or all of these signs apply to you, you might start worrying and think it’s best to keep these feelings to yourself for fear of rejection. You care about this person and if they don’t feel the same way about you, it could really affect the dynamic of your friendship and you might even lose them as a good friend, which is scary.
You might also worry about what will happen if you tell them and they feel the same way so you decide to date, but then breakup later down the line. That could also result in losing the friendship you once had and cherished.
This can be nerve-racking but it’s important that you focus on what you can gain by following your heart and pursuing a romantic relationship with your friend.
Being friends first before being lovers provides a good, solid foundation for a romantic relationship to flourish, thrive and survive the tests of time and could be the best thing to happen to you. So, would you rather live with the regret of not knowing what could have been or live knowing you took a chance and tried at least?
That is a personal decision you will have to make. Feelings and emotions can be so complicated and confusing. Consulting a psychic online is always helpful because they can shed light on your situation and help you make sense of everything you’re feeling.