When you’re comfortable in a relationship, it’s easy to think there are no problems and everything is okay, even if that’s not the case.
Having your partner hit you with the news that they’re no longer happy with you when you thought your relationship was going great can be such a devastating blow. A relationship takes a lot of work to keep alive and thriving.
Basic maintenance is required, along with going above and beyond the day-to-day routine you may have gotten used to. Sometimes just telling your partner you love them isn’t enough; you have to SHOW them you love them.
You can accomplish this by doing things for them you know they’ll appreciate. For example, you can give them a back massage after a long day at work or set up a game night for them and their friends.
It’s good to breathe fresh air into your relationship now and then so it can survive the long road ahead. If you think your relationship can use some inspiration and excitement, here are eight ways to revive it:
1. Let Go Of Resentments And Grudges
It’s incredible how much even the smallest grudges can damage your relationship. Suppose your partner hurt you intentionally or unintentionally in the past, but you chose to forgive them. In that case, it’s time you make peace with it and drop it indefinitely.
There’s no point in telling them you forgive them for what they did if you keep holding it against them. Stewing over it will only drive a wedge between the two of you, so you must get any resentment you hold against them off of your chest as soon as possible.
Communicate your feelings to them calmly and honestly, explain in full detail how and why that hurt you, and allow them to explain themselves to you. If you can understand each other and move forward, work together to resolve the issue and get closure.
Once you’ve done this, you need to stop bringing it up. If it’s not something you feel can be forgiven, you must consider going your separate ways.
Letting go of grudges and resentments is the first step to being able to reinvent your relationship. Otherwise, they will always be in the way and keep you from moving forward together.
2. Appreciate Them And Acknowledge Their Good Qualities
In a long-term relationship, it’s easy to get into a routine where all you see about your partner is the bad things about them. The things that get on your nerves and that you’d like them to change.
However, if you’re committed to your relationship and truly love your partner, you need to stop focusing on the things you don’t like about them and start noticing the things they’re good at and that you love.
Start appreciating and celebrating the things that make them special and unique and that made you fall in love with them in the first place. Like you want to be loved wholeheartedly and without limits, so does your partner.
Remind them they’re loved just as they are and that you still find them attractive and desirable after all these years. Let them know all the things you love about them, and acknowledge them when they’re doing something that makes you happy.
Show more gratitude for them by thanking them when they help you with something. More than likely, pointing out your partner’s positive actions will drive them to do them more often because you’ve shown how much you like and appreciate it.
3. Take Turns Giving Each Other A Makeover
Makeovers are a lighthearted and fun way to keep the spark alive in your relationship while simultaneously communicating your likes and dislikes to each other.
You don’t have to go out and spend loads of money on a new look for each other. What I mean by this is to find something positive you like about your partner and highlight it.
For example, if your partner has a pair of pants that flatters them in all the right places and that you love seeing them in, get them a couple more pairs in different colors. Or, if they love your soft complexion, they can treat you to a pampering spa day that makes your skin glow even more.
This exercise isn’t the place for criticism, though. Remember to keep it upbeat and light. If there’s something about them you wish they’d change, mention it, but don’t be rude about it. Remember that nobody, yourself included, is perfect.
Instead of telling them, “those old shoes make you look like such a slob,” you can say something like, “I don’t think those shoes do you justice. I think you would look so much better in some newer shoes,” and go on a shopping date.
Let them pick out things they’d like to see you wearing for you as well. Don’t automatically shut down their suggestions even if it doesn’t seem like something you could see yourself wearing. Give it a shot!
Take it to the fitting room and check it out; you might be surprised at how flattering it is on you. You must keep growing and evolving; style is part of that process. Don’t get stuck in a specific look that ages you or fails to highlight your beauty.
4. Fight Fair And Establish Conflict Rules
Even if you focus on the great things about your partner, appreciate them for who they are, and show them gratitude whenever possible, it doesn’t change the fact that at some point or another, you two will get into a fight or an argument.
Disagreeing and miscommunication are a fact of life that probably won’t change anytime soon. The important thing is that when a fight or argument does happen, you fight in a fair and civilized manner. You can do this by creating and defining “conflict rules.”
People have different ways of expressing their concerns; this is where things go from a simple misunderstanding to a full-blown fight.
For example, you might be the type who needs to say what you feel and confront them about how mad they’ve made you immediately, as opposed to chilling out a bit.
On the other hand, your partner could be the type that can’t handle listening to you while you’re in this angry state and instead chooses to disengage from the conversation or even leaves the room.
Fighting isn’t a death sentence for a relationship. On the contrary, it can help improve it because you get to say how you feel about things. However, it can only improve the relationship when you and your partner work together and fight fairly.
Otherwise, it can cause severe damage When things are good and you’re not fighting, take some time to sit down together and define and outline some conflict rules for your relationship.
Examples of good conflict rules during a fight are:
- Not getting violent or physical, no matter how angry you get
- Refraining from name-calling
- Respecting each other
- Giving each other equal amounts of time to say how you feel
- Sticking to the subject at hand
- Being completely honest with each other
5. Make The Relationship Fun And Playful
Any relationship that’s surpassed the tests of time has probably already figured out how important having fun is. Why would you want to stay in a relationship that isn’t fun, right??
“Adulting” isn’t always fun, and it can be downright HARD at times, but being able to turn even the dullest and tedious tasks into a good time is key to a long-lasting relationship.
We all need something that makes us laugh and gets our minds off the more serious things. Make up silly songs while you’re folding laundry together, or turn on some music next time you’re cooking together and ask them to dance a song with you!
Little things like this add up in the long run and keep the relationship fun and exciting.
6. Always Learn New Things About Each Other
No matter how long you and your partner have been together, chances are, there are still many things you don’t know about them.
What’s their favorite show right now? What are they into these days? What’s the yummiest meal they’ve eaten recently?
Just like your interests are constantly changing, so are theirs. Thinking about and discovering their newest interests and preferences is a great way to breathe fresh air into your relationship.
You may learn new and exciting things about them that you had no idea about before. This information can add an element of surprise and make you appreciate different things about them.
Assuming your partner is boring and you know everything about them isn’t doing your relationship any justice. Give them a chance to show you how diversified they can be!
7. Try New Things Together On A Regular Basis
Is there something you’ve always wanted to try with your partner but never got around to doing? Have you both mentioned doing an activity but never seem to make it happen?
If nothing comes to mind, sit down with your partner and ask them for ideas of things they’d like to do. If neither of you can think of something, search the internet for couple’s activities and make a list of the ones that interest both of you.
Once you’ve got a list, pick something from it and try it. If it’s something neither of you enjoyed, at least you know you tried. If it’s something you both had a fantastic time doing, make a deal to do it more often.
These activities can be as simple as taking a fun painting class together or as involved as going camping together. Even driving to the next town to try a new restaurant can do the trick.
These activities will awaken your senses and add a new fun element to your relationship. Also, sticking to a ritual or commitment will strengthen your bond and show that you can rely on one another when you follow through with something you agreed to.
8. Reintroduce An Activity You Used To Enjoy Together
If creating a new ritual seems too time-consuming or if there’s nothing available in your town, you could always bring back an old activity you used to do together but stopped for whatever reason.
Did you use to have a favorite pastime you loved doing together? What made you stop participating in it? Do you think it would be fun if you started doing it again?
Maybe the both of you used to enjoy playing frisbee golf on lovely days or waking up early on Sunday mornings and watching the sun rise over the lake.
Surprise your partner by planning a day when you do this activity again—re-light that spark of when your love was new and exciting and see how they react. The nostalgia of such a simple act can cause you to fall in love again.
Everyone deserves the beautiful feeling of being in love; it’s an experience unlike any other in this world, and I believe there’s someone out there for everyone.
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