You’re in a relationship and things seem to be going great. Your heart skips a beat every time you see them and you can’t stop thinking about them. They say all the right things, do all the right things, and make you feel all the right feelings.
It really seems like the universe has finally sent you “the one.” But…you just don’t know for sure. You keep questioning your relationship and wondering if it’s meant to be. Maybe you’ve had your heart broken in the past and you’re finding it hard to trust yourself or your partner.
You put all your love and emotions into the wrong person before and were really hurt when it didn’t work out. You felt the same way about that person then that you’re feeling now and you don’t know what to think. The good news is that this feeling is completely normal! It’s actually a good thing because it makes you think long and hard about the relationship instead of jumping into things.
Just because someone makes you laugh when you’re around them doesn’t mean they’re the one. Connecting with people on a superficial level is easy; it’s connecting with their mind and spirit that’s the hard part.
Anyone can check the box for ‘attractive’, ‘funny’, ‘responsible’ but checking the box for ‘patient’, ‘trusting’, ‘respectful’, ‘understanding’ is more important. Don’t waste precious time not knowing whether you should put all your feelings into this person or not.
Doubt and uncertainty can ruin a good thing and isn’t necessary. Take some time to find out if they’re the one for you. One way to do this is by learning the top 10 signs that signal you will have a successful relationship:
Being with someone whose beliefs are the opposite of yours for the rest of your life can be extremely difficult. Sharing personal values, morals, and ethics is a good sign that you can have a happy future together.
Having the same opinions on religion, children, family, and health is also important. If you’re the type that tries to be the healthiest version of yourself, do you think you can be with someone who doesn’t care about their health at all?
Being with someone who doesn’t watch what they eat or try to stay active can cause issues for you down the line. They may be the most attractive person you’ve ever met but it’s going to be a problem when you realize that they’re a huge liar. If you value respect and honesty, being with someone who cheats and steals from others is going to cause issues for you ethically.
This is a lot like sharing values and beliefs but a little different. It’s important that you’re both on the same page about how you picture your future together. You want a quiet life in the country where you can be a stay-at-home mom for the children you want to have.
Your partner wants you both to have high paying careers while living in a busy city with no kids. This is a recipe for disaster and you’re bound to face some difficulties. At some point, it won’t matter how trustworthy they are if you don’t want the same things in life.
If they dream of traveling the world and never staying in one place for too long and you dream of establishing roots in the city you grew up in, this is a sign that they’re not the one for you. Have an open and honest discussion to see if you’re on the same page about what the future looks like.
Does your partner make you feel safe, loved, and cared for no matter how busy they are? Are they flexible when it comes to meeting your needs? If they’re the type who’s willing to leave work early to go with you to an important event, this is a great sign.
If they’re first question is, “how can I help?” or “what can I do to make it better?” when you reach out to them with a problem, they’re that much closer to being the right one for you. Someone who goes the extra mile to be there for you and care for your during your worst is a person you know you can have a happy future with.
You may want to rethink the relationship if they always seem to be too busy for you. Being absent when you need them the most or making you feel too needy and demanding is a bad sign.
A healthy relationship is one where you never lose your sense of self. One where you can be yourself without having to completely change your life to make them happy. You should never sacrifice your life to complete someone else’s. You’ll know your partner is the right one for you if they give you freedom without restrictions.
Your partner should always respect the time you need for yourself, your friends, and your family. You should never feel bad for asking for some space or for wanting to spend quality time with others. They shouldn’t try to keep you away from people you knew before they came into the picture.
The right one for you would never ask you to quit your hobbies or interests to spend that time with them. They would actually encourage you to keep doing the activities that make you YOU. Your perfect partner will respect your personal time and welcome you with open arms when you come back to them.
Trust is EVERYTHING in a relationship. If you trust each other, you’re on the right path towards being soulmates. You have to trust that your partner won’t leave you for someone “hotter,” “younger,” “wealthier,” etc. They also have to trust you not to do that.
The right partner won’t call to “check up on you” when you’re spending time with others. They won’t ask you a million questions when you’re done hanging out with others to “test” you or to try to catch you in a lie. If you can’t believe what comes out of each other’s mouths then it’s time for a serious discussion.
Trust and jealousy issues don’t usually disappear on their own. They actually tend to get worse if left unattended. A distrusting and jealous partner is not someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, believe me.
The person you spend the rest of your life with needs to be someone you know you can trust even in the most uncomfortable situations. You have to know that they’ll make good decisions even in your absence and that they know you’ll do the same.
Life is all about moving forward and living our best lives in the time we’re given. The right partner will want to be the best version of themselves possible and will want the same for you. They will believe in personal growth and support whatever actions you have to take to get there.
Making good decisions, treating people how they deserve to be treated, and always trying to improve their emotional health are all signs of growth. The right one won’t be too prideful to ask for your help when they need it. They know that two heads are better than one and that sometimes in order to grow spiritually, they need outside help.
It’s important that your partner is able to say they’re sorry when they’ve wronged you, learns from their mistakes, and forgives you when you ask for forgiveness. Holding grudges and constantly reminding you of past mistakes is not the way to spiritual growth. These things take you backwards and lead to fights and arguments.
If you’ve ever dated a liar, you know how difficult it is. Honesty is right up there with trust when it comes to relationships. You need to know that the things you and your partner tell each other are without a doubt true. If you can’t tell what’s real and what’s a lie, you have a rocky road ahead of you.
You’ll constantly be doubting your partner, you won’t trust them, and you won’t be able to rely on them for anything. The right partner for you needs to be able to have open and honest conversations, even about things that are emotional to talk about.
Relationships aren’t always sunshine and rainbows, they can be downright painful at times. No two people are exactly alike and there will be times when you clash and disagree. You need to know that you can be honest with your partner about what’s bothering you and that they will give you a solid answer.
Deciding to share your life with someone and building a future with them is a big deal. Having an honest partner you can rely on is crucial.
The right one for you will be proud of you and all your accomplishments. They won’t be embarrassed of you or try to hide you from the people in their lives. They would never lie about you to their friends and family, or make you lie about yourself when talking to them.
The right one will take you as you are and love you just like that. Anyone who makes you feel ashamed of how much money you make, your education level, where you live, etc. is not someone you should share your life with. The perfect person for you would never talk you out of a higher paying job where you’ll be making more than them.
They won’t keep you from advancing your life to protect their ego. They won’t see things as a competition between the two of you. Your life partner will be proud of you even when you’re more successful than them.
They should celebrate your accomplishments as if they were their own because a true partnership is two people who feel as one. A partner who thinks they have to do better than you or be in a better position than you is not someone you should plan a future with.
Your soulmate is someone you feel alive and confident with when you’re with them. They will make you feel like part of a team and that the world is yours for the taking. Someone who makes you feel like you can conquer anything together.
A good relationship should make you want to be the best person you can be and make you hopeful for the future. You should feel supported and encouraged in accomplishing your dreams. They should never make you feel bad for wanting better things for yourself and try to hold you back.
They should love that you take time out to volunteer instead of making you feel guilty you’re not with them. The right one will make you feel like you can do anything you set your mind to because they encourage you and believe in you. They will push you to be brave and try new things, to conquer your fears.
When you’re with the person who you’re meant to be with, you’ll wake up looking forward to each day. You won’t wake up with feelings of fear or dread. You won’t feel worse when you’re with them than you do when you’re by yourself. Your partner should make you feel hopeful for a fun and exciting future together.
Last but not least, you’ll know that you’re with the right one when you can confidently say that they’re your best friend. When you know you can share all your thoughts and feelings with them without negative consequences.
Knowing each other’s secrets and the worst things about each other is a good sign for a healthy relationship. What separates best friends from regular friends is the knowledge that this person has your best interests in mind.
That they love you simply for being you and not for what you can do for them. That you can count on them for whatever you need, and vice versa. It’s a feeling in your heart that no matter how bad things get, your partner will be by your side and do anything in their power to help you.
Is your partner the first person you call when you receive important news? Are they constantly on your mind, from the time you wake up to the time you lay down? Do you miss them when you’re not with them? Were you friends before you started dating? These are all excellent foundations for a happy life together.
What If Things Aren’t Looking Too Good?
If you’ve thought long and hard about the 10 signs above and came to the conclusion that they’re not the one for you, don’t panic. There’s no 100% surefire way of knowing for sure that your partner is perfect for you. True love can conquer anything and if things are meant to be, they will work themselves out.
Have an open and honest conversation with your partner about the areas where you need them to step up for the relationship. If this doesn’t seem doable or if you know they won’t change, you may have to make the decision to breakup.
Breaking up may be painful but doing it while the relationship is still young is so much easier than waiting years for the same result. Life is too short and precious to spend it with someone who you know in your heart isn’t for you.
Don’t worry about being single, think of it as an opportunity instead. Take time for yourself and learn to fall in love with YOU. Ask yourself if there’s anything you can change in yourself for the better. Think about whether you’re able to provide to a partner what you’re asking of them. A lot of times we want to be treated like royalty without doing the same for others.
The 10 steps above are just as much of a guideline for you to discover whether you’re being the right one for your partner. If you notice that there are some things you aren’t doing as good of a job as you should be, work on them! Your partner might also be asking themselves if you’re the one for them.
Relationships take work but don’t rush the process and don’t lose faith. Contrary to popular belief, there isn’t just one right person for you. There are others and the universe will put the perfect one for you in your life when you’re ready and when the time is right.
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