It’s a question as old as time: “How can I make a guy want me?” Women have asked themselves this for as long as they have existed, and for good reason! Getting the attention and desire of the opposite sex can be daunting. Contrary to the popular myth, you can’t just trick someone into wanting you through spells or potions.
Men are complicated and diverse creatures, and no two are the same. However, they do have a lot of things in common with each other that can have them swooning over you in no time. As with anything, there are plenty of tips and do’s and don’ts when it comes to winning a man over. Psychic Arthur from Psychic Source shares what works and what doesn’t work when it comes to this task.
What DOESN’T Work To Make A Guy Like You
Let’s get the bad news out of the way by discussing what doesn’t work. The psychic says that as tempting as it is to declare your undying love to your crush the first chance you get, it’s not a good idea. You risk scaring him off when you spill your heart and guts to a guy too quickly. Guys aren’t as comfortable as women with feelings and emotions, so approaching them with them all at once isn’t the way to go. The last thing you want to do to your crush is overload them with your emotions.
Doing so can make him retreat instead of pulling him closer to you. To them, it can feel like you’re being too serious about it and wanting them to commit then and there to being in a relationship with you, even though you’re just sharing how you feel. Instead of bombarding him with your feelings towards him, let the feelings show themselves more subtly. Just be yourself and take it easy. Spend time with them when you can and let things move slowly.
The last thing you want to do is suffocate him by constantly blowing up his phone with calls and dramatic texts. Also, don’t show up unannounced to his home or place of work. It’s weird and can make you seem clingy, obsessed, or jealous. I’m not saying never to reach out to them, but keep it to a minimum first and make it short and sweet. Save the words for when you’re in person, and let the conversation flow naturally. He’ll be so intrigued by this woman who is so laid-back and easygoing that he’ll want to engage with you.
Let him enjoy your company and get to know you in a relaxed manner
The more relaxed and easy-going you are towards him, the more he’ll be able to let his guard down and enjoy spending time with you. The more he enjoys spending time with you, the more you’ll meet up, and the relationship will develop naturally. Don’t be pushy, demanding, or upset if he can’t see you as often as you’d like. Let him see you’re an understanding person who lets him breathe, and he’ll start to appreciate that. Let him miss you, your easygoingness, your relaxed manner, and it won’t be long before he’ll seek you out.
That may sound like the psychic is telling you to play hard to get, but he isn’t. There’s a difference between being overbearing and needy and being an ice queen who plays mental games. You’ve probably heard at one time or another that men love women who play hard to get, but it’s more complicated than that. When people hear this advice, they think it means ignore your crush and be as distant as possible or make them chase me.
While it’s true that some men love what they can’t have or a good chase, it’s not true for all men. And even the ones it is true for get tired of playing that game eventually. When that happens, you risk them moving on to someone else, someone more attainable. Not to mention, playing hard to get is tiring and requires lots of time and energy. Instead, show him you’re genuinely interested in him by spending time with him when possible.
Don’t be flaky
Don’t cancel plans or ignore texts and calls. Answer them like you would anyone else’s. If you’re available to meet up, go for it. And during the date, remember what I said above and just act naturally. He’ll be able to pick up how you feel towards him by your vibe and energy. Let that speak for you instead of proclaiming your undying love for him then and there.
He’ll appreciate how he feels around you and want to spend more time with you if you hit it off and have things in common. Let the time you spend together be enjoyable, not full of drama and emotions. There will be plenty of time for emotions later. If you can’t tell, there’s a fine line between being too available and not enough.
Don’t pout or throw a fit when he isn’t available, but also don’t ignore other people and drop everything you were doing the minute they want to see you. Think about what will happen if you start ditching your friends that have always been there for you for your crush and it doesn’t work out with them. By then, your friends. May be hurt or moved on to someone else. They were there first, and you should respect and appreciate that.
Other things you shouldn’t do include:
- Telling him you love him on the first date. It’s not as romantic as you think it is!
- Pretending to be someone or something you’re not. It’s never good to start a relationship with lies, plus keeping your story straight is harder than you think.
- Dissecting his every move on social media. Things aren’t always what they seem online, and you don’t need to dwell on past relationships, etc.
- Trying to make him jealous by flirting with others. Trust me- it’s not a good look.
- Bringing up exes and old relationships. Out with the old, in with the new. If he wants to know, he’ll ask.
What DOES Work To Make A Guy Like You
One of the main ways to avoid the don’ts above is by having confidence. Self-confidence and loving yourself are the key to making any relationship work. People are attracted to those who are comfortable in their own skin, like themselves, and are interested in them. It makes you desirable because how can you not be likable if you like yourself so much?! There’s got to be something to you, and they’ll want to figure that out for themselves by getting to know you.
If you’re going on a date, wear something that shows off your best assets and that you feel good in. The better you feel about yourself, the more it’ll show, and he’ll notice. Plus, the more comfortable you feel, the more likely you are to engage in conversation, giving your personality and charm a chance to shine through and bury itself in his heart. The psychic said, believe him when he says men love spending time with a happy woman with a good personality.
Maintaining eye contact and warm smiles go a long way on dates too. It makes him know you’re interested in him and are enjoying his company without expressing it through words. Life is short; nobody should spend it with someone who can’t look them in the eye or be happy to be there. Listen to him with all your attention when he’s speaking, and don’t interrupt or “one-up” his stories. And keep the serious questions, like “Do you want kids?” for a later date. Keep it easy and casual.
Keep it light
Another thing that works in getting a guy to want you is having a good sense of humor. Making him laugh and laughing with him is a great way to connect. Leave your problems at the door and show him your fun side! I don’t mean memorize some dad jokes and tell them like you’re on a stage; I just mean don’t take everything so seriously. Laughter truly is the best medicine and releases all kinds of feel-good chemicals in the body.
Remember to have fun and do things together that are enjoyable and fulfilling. Expand your dates beyond the restaurant and instead go to a museum or hiking. He’ll appreciate that you don’t always need to be wined and dined and that you’re not constantly costing him. After all, the best things in life are free, and the memories you make while going on adventures together will be priceless to him. He’ll think about those things when he’s not with you, and he’ll find himself wanting to be with you more often.
I know this is a lot to take in, and taking it easy at first can be challenging. If you’re head-over-heels for this person, your first instinct is to declare your love for him as soon as possible. Just try to resist and tell yourself you have all the time in the world. Be confident, genuine, and appreciate the time he spends with you, and he’ll appreciate you all the more for it. Finding the right balance is harder than it sounds, but if it’s meant to be, it’ll be! For more help with your love life, talk to one of my favorite psychics below today!