Losing a loved one is never easy. I wish there was a special formula I could tell you about that takes the pain away. While I can’t do that, I *can* tell you how healing it can be to connect with the spirit of your deceased loved one.
Mediums have a unique gift that allows them to connect with the spirit world and relay messages back and forth. There’s something magical when this happens and there’s absolutely nothing else like it. It’s the next best thing to being able to speak to them yourself.
Learn more about psychic mediums here if you’re not familiar with them. If you’re thinking about having a session with a medium, here are some tips to have the best reading possible:
Be Patient And Understanding
A psychic medium, also known as a spirit medium or just ‘medium’, acts as a bridge to the spirit world. They are a conduit for connecting with the other side. This requires a lot of energy from them. Spirits exist on a whole different level and have a much higher frequency than us.
Mediums are called this because they’re able to raise their vibrational frequency to meet the spirit somewhere in the middle. This space is extremely sacred for the medium and it takes a lot from them mentally and physically.
Authentic mediums not only reach the other side, they also relay messages between them. They then have to interpret the meanings of these conversation for their client. Be patient with the medium during a session. It may seem like they’re “taking too long” or stalling, but just know they’re doing the best they can without getting overwhelmed.
An overwhelmed or overloaded medium isn’t good for the session at all. It leaves them open to other spirits and lets in messages from others that have nothing to do with you. Give them time and space and you’ll be amazed at the information they bring back to you!
Keep An Open Mind Throughout The Session
Several mediums have told me that spirit energies come through in the order that they want to come through. This means that even though you wanted to speak to a specific aunt, your grandfather or other relative may insist on coming through first. Because of this, it’s important that you keep an open mind during the session.
I know it can be frustrating if the medium is relaying information from a family member you never really knew instead of the person you’re trying to reach. Just know that this is beyond the mediums control and it’s not something they’re doing on purpose. Despite their superhuman gifts, remember that mediums are still only human.
They will reach the intended person but have to get past the other spirits who want to speak. They may bring up names or information that doesn’t make sense to you but it could be because that spirit is just desperate to communicate. Oftentimes, these spirits passed away quickly and unexpectedly.
They never got a chance to say their goodbyes or give their final words while on earth. They are taking this opportunity to say what they want to say. Don’t be too quick to judge the medium for relaying this information even if it’s not valuable to you.
I also suggest keeping notes during the session. This is because the medium might say things that don’t make sense at the time, but will later. It’s nice to be able to go through your notes whenever a thought pops into your mind. It could be the key to understanding something important.
Don’t Interrupt Or Distract The Medium
During a session, the medium uses their energy to interpret words they’re hearing and symbols they’re seeing. They want it to make as much sense as possible before they give you these messages. These things are hard enough to do on their own but even harder when they keep getting interrupted or distracted.
You are absolutely welcome to ask them any and all questions you can think of, but please wait until they’re not in the middle of “listening” to the spirit energies. In order to effectively connect and communicate with the spirits they need to be able to give them their complete, undivided attention.
I’ve been told by several mediums that sometimes this process is super easy and the messages are crystal clear and to the point but sometimes they’re vague, confusing and hard to figure out. They have to work through what they’re trying to say, much like a puzzle. I can only imagine how much focus this takes.
Let the medium know at the beginning of the session that you would like to ask them some questions throughout and they can tell you when the time is right.
Understand That Sometimes Spirits Can’t Be Reached
There are times when a medium just can’t connect with the intended spirit. This is due to several factors. Sometimes, the deceased just isn’t in a place to be reached or the vibrations get mixed up or aren’t strong enough. Other times the spirit just isn’t ready to make contact yet or the medium is having an off day.
During an off day, the medium’s energy and vibes aren’t where they need to be to make contact. As I mentioned before, mediums are only human and things can interfere with their work just like anyone else. Don’t be discouraged or frustrated if this happens. I know what a letdown it can be, especially if this is your first time consulting with one.
The best thing you can do is keep a positive attitude, thank the medium, and try again at another time. Even though you’re not a medium who can communicate back and forth with spirits, it never hurts to still talk to them on your own. It’s possible that they can hear you, you just can’t hear them back.
Thank the spirit for their time and let them know that you’re thinking of them. Tell them how much you love and miss them. Ask them to send you a sign. Be detailed in your request and ask for something specific. You can say things like, “Send me a butterfly,” or “Play me your favorite song on the radio.”
Seeing your sign answered is such an amazing feeling! You can also share these signs with the medium next time you talk to them and they can confirm or elaborate on them. Get the closure you need after the loss of a loved one and start the healing process. For a list of the best online psychic mediums to speak to, check out my reviews page here.