You’ve probably heard the saying, “All good things must come to an end,” right? People also say, “It’s better to have love and lost than never to have loved at all.” People tell themselves these things when they learn Disney’s “happily ever after” isn’t necessarily true and their relationship has ended.
Unfortunately, even good relationships can run into problems and troubles that end them. Divorce rates have increased tremendously because couples realize they don’t have to stay in unhappy marriages. There’s no longer a stigma attached to it like in the days of our parents and grandparents.
A phenomenon called the “seven-year itch” describes the hard times a marriage goes through after seven years. But now, after only about three years of marriage, people feel this itch. Is it possible that with the wide acceptance of divorce, couples are no longer willing to do the work it takes to keep a healthy marriage alive?
I’m not kidding when I say it takes a lot of effort to maintain a relationship and keep it fresh and fun. Sometimes it seems easier to end it and cut your losses rather than stick around and restore the marriage. I also know, however, that this isn’t the best course of action to take. Everything good is worth fighting for; your marriage or relationship is the perfect example.
The US census shows less than 5% of divorced couples sought or underwent marriage counseling before separating. However, you and your partner mustn’t add to this statistic. Following the tips outlined in this article will help you beat the odds and keep your relationship surviving and thriving. Are you up to the challenge??
Always Keep Communication Lines Open
Talking to your partner is one of the most important aspects of keeping a relationship alive. It’s crazy how something so simple can have such a huge impact. This tip applies to all sorts of relationships, such as your relationships with family, friends, and co-workers. You would think that talking to your partner about things is a no-brainer, but it’s surprising how many couples fail to communicate with each other on a deeper level.
In healthy relationships, both partners share their thoughts, feelings, emotions, doubts, triumphs, etc. They talk openly about both good and bad topics. Sometimes, one or the other won’t like what the other is saying, but you should respect and love each other enough to hear each other out calmly. You should always consider each other’s thoughts and feelings when shared with you and reserve judgment unless they ask for your opinion or point of view.
Never scold or belittle each other when you’re vulnerable or communicating with each other, or you’ll be less likely to talk in the future. When you fail to communicate with each other and instead hold your feelings in, you welcome stress, friction, and resentment. Resentment is like cancer in a relationship. If not taken care of, it can lead to hostility and even hatred for each other. Ensure this doesn’t happen to you by keeping the communication lines open.
Never Stop Dating Each Other
Life is hectic with work, kids, family, school, etc., and finding time to be together one-on-one might be challenging. However, spending time alone as a couple is crucial for the health of a long-term relationship. Make it a point to carve out time for just the two of you. Remember how it felt when you first met your partner? You would go on dates, try to woo each other, and fall in love with one another.
It feels good to know that someone wants you and is courting you. That person is doing things they know you’ll enjoy and make you happy because they love seeing you that way. Unfortunately, the longer a couple is together, the less importance they place on giving each other that feeling. They think it’s unnecessary since they already have that person in their life, which couldn’t be more wrong.
It’s possible to fall in love with each other more every day. For this reason, treating each other and making time for a show or a quiet dinner is still as important now as it was then. These date nights allow you to leave the stress of home and work life behind. As hard as it may be to not think of these things while out, make it a point not to! These moments should be about each other and nothing else.
I understand that work, kids, and your friends and family can be a big part of you, so if you talk about them, don’t let it become a tense conversation or argue about them. Keep it light and relaxed. You’ll soon notice how these date nights strengthen your relationship and give you much-needed couple time to remember why you fell in love in the first place.
Keep The Intimacy Alive
It’s common for couples to stop having as much sex as they did in the beginning. When you first met your partner, sex with them was new, exciting, passionate, intense, and thrilling, and now it might be more boring, repetitive, tiresome, and monotonous. If you prefer to dwindle down your to-do list or catch up on your shows than jump in the sack, I urge you to rethink your love life.
Sex is such an essential part of relationships- both new and old. When intimacy is good, it makes you feel like you’re on cloud nine; when it’s not, it can feel like you’re on totally different planets. Even worse, if sex is essential to one and not the other, the deprived one may be tempted to stray or check out of the relationship. The same goes if the sex is boring or feels forced or unnatural.
If one of you is unhappy, consider bringing that intensity back. Keep your sex life fresh and new by constantly looking for new ways to excite each other. For example, finish work early one day, get a babysitter, make a delicious meal and serve it by candlelight in lingerie that highlights your best assets! A secret weekend getaway where everything is paid for and planned can do wonders for your sex life.
No matter how tired you are or how many others are pulling at you to get things done, sex should be fun and exciting, not like a chore or task. Be open-minded and try new things. Learn about new devices or techniques, get advice from friends or books, listen to sexy stories, etc. There’s a vast world of sexy ideas out there, and you may not know what you’ll like until you try it.
Consult A Psychic If You’re Thinking About Getting A Divorce
It’s ok to get frustrated in your relationship and want to give up and walk away. Sometimes people just really aren’t meant to be together, and divorcing is best for them– there’s nothing wrong with that. But before you do that, take a step back and think long and hard about what your relationship gives you. Reflect on what you’ve made and accomplished as a team.
Think about everything you would be giving up if you chose to separate. The grass may seem greener on the other side but remember that it’s always greener where you water it! Decide whether it’s worth putting in the work and fighting for. There are bound to be ups and downs, good times and bad, but nothing is ever effortless, and some love only comes around once in a lifetime.
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