Losing a loved one can turn your life completely upside down in a matter of seconds. It’s difficult for anyone to endure, and you might be looking for all the help you can get to heal your hurting heart. This is where speaking to a psychic medium really helps. They can relieve some of your grief by relaying messages between you and your deceased loved one.
I have had so many readers message me that they used to be skeptics and thought mediums were only used by people who didn’t know any better but are now believers themselves after having experienced their gifts firsthand. A good session with an authentic psychic medium truly aids in the grief process. Speaking to a medium is a big step in the right direction, but you must be fully prepared to get the most out of it. The five tips below will help you get the most benefit out of your consultation:
Consider Where You Are In Your Grieving Process
What is your current “grief stage?” Is the loss very recent, and you’re still in disbelief that your loved one is gone? Do you wake up every morning imagining it was all a bad dream and that they are still here with you? Do you have immense feelings of anger or depression? Do you cry at the drop of a hat when you think about them? Take a good, hard look at your state of mind concerning the loss, and be honest with yourself.
If the loss is still very fresh and you have a hard time accepting the reality, you may want to hold off on speaking to a medium. Instead, consider joining a support group or having a general reading with a regular psychic first. This will help you find solid ground and understand the situation better before speaking to a spirit medium. The mediums I have spoken to all agree that time isn’t necessarily a deciding factor in whether or not the spirit of your loved one will come through to them during a session.
They could still contact them even if they had just recently passed. However, they also agreed that having group or individual sessions before speaking to them will benefit you more in the long run. You will get more out of the reading if you’ve had time to process your loss and come to terms with it. Obviously, you don’t have to be okay with the loss, but you need to be in a place where you understand the full scope of what has happened. It will be better for you if you are no longer at the stage where you feel mad at the world for what has been taken away from you.
If you can think of your loved one and smile at the pleasant memories you had with them instead of crying, or if you wake up every day with a positive attitude and the intent to make the best of the life you have left, then you are ready. Otherwise, you may have undue expectations from the medium that might be hard, if not impossible, to meet, which will only lead to more disappointment for you. The better your emotional state, the better you’ll be able to accept and understand the messages relayed to you.
Choose A Trustworthy Spirit Medium
Throughout civilization, there has never been a shortage of psychics. There have always been special individuals amongst us gifted with unique abilities that allow them to see things we cannot see and hear things we cannot hear. They range from money-sucking scam artists to celebrity-endorsed idols. For every genuine and honest psychic, you can rest assured there will be a scheming charlatan behind them. You must find an authentic psychic medium you can trust.
I know this is easier said than done, so I’ve dedicated much of my time and energy to seeking out and reviewing authentic psychics. All the psychics I’ve reviewed and recommended on my reviews page have been tested and verified. They are not the “here today, gone tomorrow” types, and you can always get your money back if unsatisfied. They are the only ones I trust now after my bad experiences with local psychics.
I love that none of the psychics on these psychic networks try to scare or threaten me with curses or spells. They don’t tell me that I have to pay them for special candles and talismans, and they don’t run off as soon as I ask challenging questions. I also like all my different choices for communicating with them- I can talk to them over the phone, through video messaging, or by chatting with them online.
Take Some Time Before The Session To Reflect On Your Loved One
Before you have your session with the medium, it’s a good idea to take some time to think about your loved one. Picture them in your head and talk to them honestly. Tell them you will be speaking to a medium to contact them. Ask them to be open to receiving the medium and to come through for them. Even though you’re not a medium who can receive messages from your loved one, they may still be able to hear you.
Let them know you miss them and want to know how they’re doing. When you start talking to the medium, ask them to explain the whole process in detail. Stay calm, be open, and be as relaxed as possible during the reading. It’s easy to get yourself worked into a frenzy at the thought of being able to communicate with someone you miss so much but trust me on this one.
It will be a much better experience for you and easier for the medium to make contact if you remain calm and open-minded. Don’t worry about saying too little or too much, saying the wrong things, or verifying what they’re saying is true. Just sit back, listen, and give them feedback afterward if you’d like. Trying to give them feedback about everything during the reading can distract you and cause you to miss some important things.
Have Reasonable Expectations And Keep An Open Mind
Even though authentic psychic mediums perform life-changing work, you mustn’t go in full of impossible expectations. Be reasonable and receptive to what they are saying. Don’t take your anger, hurt, and frustration out on the medium. Psychics are only human; they have good and bad days, just like the rest of us. There are also times when the spirit of your deceased loved one just isn’t quite ready to communicate yet.
They could be confused about everything that’s happened to them or even still be traumatized. Yet another reason why giving it some time after death is better. The spirit will be more likely to accept the medium and come through to them once some time has passed and they have found their bearings. You may notice that each time you speak to the medium, more and more astonishing information that only you and your loved one could possibly know comes through.
This is because the spirit warms up to the idea of communicating with you through a medium a little bit more with every session and gets more comfortable. Some people have an amazing experience the first time they talk to a spirit medium and are completely satisfied, never feeling the need to call again. The medium reached the loved one to relay important messages, and the caller heard exactly what they needed to hear to move forward.
However, if this isn’t the case for you the very first time, don’t give up just yet. As I mentioned, so many factors are at play, and it can be hard to have everything come together perfectly the first time. I suggest trying at least once more and speaking to a different medium if you don’t feel you clicked with the first one. The relationship between you and a medium is very intimate, and you must be compatible and trust each other.
You need to feel comfortable with them to be most relaxed; the same goes for them with you. If you’re being impatient or hostile towards them, they won’t be able to fully relax, and contact with your loved one will be more difficult or take longer. Sometimes, two people are simply not on the same wavelength, and there’s nothing wrong with that! If the information the medium gives you doesn’t feel right or just doesn’t resonate, please let them know.
When you go through a trusted online psychic network, they want you to have the best reading possible and will do whatever it takes to make it right. Even if it means finding you a different medium that you might connect with better on an emotional level or refunding you for the reading, don’t let a less-than-ideal first experience discourage you from trying again with a different medium; you’ll only be cheating yourself if you give up after the first try.
Take Notes Or Record The Conversation
There are so many thoughts and emotions flowing through your body during a session with a medium, and you may not be able to process it all or understand everything at the time. I always recommend taking notes during the reading. You can also record the conversation with an app on your phone if you’d prefer. So much information is coming through during a reading that it can be hard to remember afterward.
Some of it might not even make sense, but it becomes clearer later when you go back and read your notes. As I mentioned, a spirit reading is a very emotional experience, and it’s hard to grasp information when your emotions are heightened fully. Having it written down or recorded allows you to review it later when you’re more grounded and in a calmer state of mind. If you talk to a friend or family member about your experience with the medium, having these notes can help you explain the conversation to them.
I urge you to be careful who you speak with about such a sensitive subject. Some people don’t understand psychics or mediums, and it may even go against their beliefs if they don’t think psychics can be Christian. You could face harsh criticism or judgment from people who don’t understand. Make sure to only talk to those you can trust and who will support your decision. Thinking about new ways to stay connected with your loved one even after the sessions is a good idea.
You may not be able to hear them, but they might be able to hear you, making you feel more open and freer. Speak out loud to them, talk to them in your head, write letters to them, and display more pictures of them in your home. Combined with speaking to a medium, these actions help you work through your grief, and you may find that one day, you feel better and no longer need to talk to them as much.
You can say goodbye to them and let them move on while moving on yourself. This doesn’t mean you no longer care about or miss them; it just means you’re in a better place emotionally. It means that you’ve come to understand the circle of life and realize you may see them again one day. Until then, you have the right to live your best life and not remain in a pit of depression for the rest of your life. Your loved one would never want that for you.