Thanks to in-your-face advertising done by major brands and companies- I’m looking at you Hallmark! – we’re made to feel like the holidays revolve around couples and relationships. If you’re not in a relationship during the holidays, it can feel like the holidays aren’t for you and like you don’t have a reason to celebrate. This is couldn’t be further from the truth though.
You actually have the most amazing reason to celebrate- YOURSELF! The holidays are the perfect time to relax, wind-down, and take some time to take care of yourself. What better gift could you give yourself than to go into the New Year feeling reinvigorated and clear of mind??
Flying solo during the holidays has plenty of benefits, and one of the biggest ones is the fact that you don’t have to compromise. No fighting over what you’re going to do, when you’re going to do it, who you’re going to do it with, what foods you’re going to serve, what time you’re going to serve them at, etc. etc. You get to decide how you want to spend your precious time and who you want to celebrate it with and spend time with.
The holidays are such as stressful time and as such, cause so many fights between couples. If you’re single, instead of wasting your time fighting with someone, you can use that time to focus on yourself and improve as an individual.
We all have things about us that we don’t like and this is the perfect time to reinvent yourself. Make it your goal to enter the New Year as the best version of yourself possible.
Not only will this be better for you in general, but it will also help you when the time comes for you to meet that special somebody. You will be way ahead of the game because you will know yourself better, love yourself more, and have more to offer.
If you’re wondering what to do with yourself during the holidays, here are five things you can do that will not only allow you to enjoy the holidays while being single, but will also benefit you in the long run and prepare you for the upcoming year.
1. Take Time To Care For Yourself
The end of the year is the perfect time to practice self-care. Hopefully at this point, you have already dealt with and cleared up a lot of the drama and messiness that seems to happen in life every year. Now you can sit back and relax without having to worry about things until after the holidays. Sign up for that yoga class you’ve been too nervous to join, book that massage you’ve been putting off- this is the best time to pamper yourself.
You might be thinking that you shouldn’t spend money on yourself during the holidays because you have to buy something for everyone else but remember- in order to be there for your friends and family, you gotta take care of yourself FIRST. However, if money is an issue, companies are always putting out deals and coupons during this time of year. Take advantage of any specials you can find, and look for Groupons in your area.
Self-care isn’t all about doing physical things for yourself though. It’s also about reflecting on yourself and doing some deep soul-searching.
While everyone else is running around hectically with their partners trying to please them, make yourself a hot cup of tea, sit back, and think about the year you just had.
Think about all the good things that happened, all the bad things that happened, all the goals you set out for yourself and accomplished, as well as the goals you haven’t accomplished yet, and any new goals you want to set for yourself.
Think about your wants and dreams, all the things you want to do differently in the future, and the things you would have done differently this past year, think about what you want to do more of and what you want your life to look like in the upcoming year.
Introspection and knowing what you really need and want for yourself is a lot harder than it sounds. This is why so many people turn to truly gifted psychics for the answers to these difficult questions. Getting insight and wisdom from authentic psychic advisors is life changing.
Not only can a genuine psychic tell you things about yourself you didn’t even know, they can also guide you towards your destiny and shed light on your future love life. The more you know about yourself, the better prepared you are for anything that comes your way.
2. Be There For Your Family
Holidays are made for family, and being single means that you can spend as much time with yours as you’d like. They don’t have to share your time with someone else’s family and that’s a great thing for them.
Take advantage of that by helping your mom cook an amazing Thanksgiving meal for the family, taking your brother to a concert, getting a manicure with your aunt, or spending time getting to know your grandpa better.
This is a great opportunity to get closer to your family, learn more about them, and show them how much you love having them in your life. Not only will your family love the opportunity to spend quality time with you, but being surrounded by so much unconditional love will also make you feel grateful.
If there are any family members that you haven’t talked to in a while for whatever reason, this could be a good time to reach out to them, resolve any conflicts you may have had with them, or even forgive any wrongdoings.
3. Spend Quality Time With Your Friends
The holidays are a great time to show your friends just how much you love and appreciate them. A lot of times when you’re in a relationship, it’s easy to put your friends who have been there for you on the back-burner while you put your partner front and center. That doesn’t make you a bad friend, it’s just the way things go when you’re coupled up and most people understand.
However, having free time means you can do things like organize a friends only weekend out or a fun game night in. Invite all those who mean a lot to you and make them feel loved by giving them all your attention.
Just because your single during the holidays doesn’t mean you have to be alone during them.
Decide if you want to have a get together before the holidays or after so they can spend them with their family, or if enough of you are on board, you can even spend the holidays together.
“Friendsgiving” is a practice that has taken off lately as more and more people realize the importance of having good friends in their life.
Are you particularly close the family of any of your friends? I’m willing to bet that they would love to have you over to celebrate with them so don’t feel bad joining them if they invite you. You can’t pick your family, but you can certainly pick your friends so make sure to spend time with them and show them just how much they mean to you.
4. Spend Your Time Helping Others
Another awesome perk to being single during the holidays is that you have more free time to help those less fortunate than you and who are in need. Instead of spending your holidays stressing out about your partner, arguing with them about who to spend your holidays with, etc. you can spend it by taking shelter dogs out for a walk, joining a city cleanup crew, or wrapping donated gifts for needy children.
Giving yourself, your time, your energy, and your heart to others fills you with a sense of accomplishment and pride like no other. Volunteering opens your heart, feeds your spirit, and is extremely fulfilling.
It not only counteracts the effects of anxiety, stress, and anger on your body, but it also combats depression and gets you in a better space mentally. It gives you a sense of purpose and increases your self-confidence.
Talk about going into the New Year a better you! It’s also worth noting that volunteering is a fantastic way to meet other people- you never know what new friends or relationships you’ll gain by giving your time to a worthy cause.
5. Treat Yourself To A Vacation
As I’ve mentioned before, one of the best parts about being single during the holidays is the fact that you don’t have to compromise or argue about which one of your friends and family you’ll be spending the most time with. Since you don’t have to worry about that, you can choose to spend more time with the people of your choosing, OR you could take some time for yourself and treat yourself to a well-deserved vacation!
Planning a trip just for yourself is so much easier and you’ll also have a bigger budget than your friends who are in relationships because you don’t have to worry about impressing or spoiling a partner with gifts. Traveling alone might seem scary and intimidating if you’ve never done it before, but it’s actually incredibly liberating and exciting!
Not only will you be able to do things you want to do without having to agree with someone else about it, but you can also spend as much or as little time as you’d like on the things that do or don’t interest you without feeling bad.
You can mingle with other people without the worry of a jealous partner, and you will learn how to step out of your comfort zone. The biggest benefit of traveling solo in my opinion is that you get to know yourself in ways you never imagined.
I truly believe everyone should go on at least one solo trip to experience the benefits, and the holidays are an ideal time. While everyone else is running around stressing out, treat yourself to a life-changing experience.
Spend some time with your loved ones before you go so that you don’t feel bad being away from them during the holidays. More than likely, they will understand that you need to do this for yourself and they will be happy and excited for you.