It’s no secret that relationships can be pretty tricky at times. A lot of work has to go into maintaining a healthy and satisfying one. They might start as a walk in the park where everything is perfect, but the longer you’re together, the harder it is to keep it alive and fresh. You’re not alone if you feel like you do a lot to keep your relationship going. This feeling is a normal part of merging your life with someone else’s.
However, if all you seem to be doing is working and sweating away at your relationship and no longer finding joy or happiness, it could be time for a significant change. If it brings more pain, frustration, or anger than love, joy, and comfort, then this isn’t something you should keep wasting your precious time on.
The solution varies from person to person, but it could mean anything from shaking things up with your current partner to communicating more, taking time apart, or just deciding to be single again and getting to know yourself better. Sometimes things feel like the end of a relationship, but they’re not. It could be that you’ve just gotten into a rut or a routine.
You still love each other and want to stay in their lives, but it’s become old and stagnant. Love can be like a roller coaster sometimes, with great days followed by bad days. So how do you know if this is just a phase or if it’s time to make a significant change? The seven signs below indicate that something isn’t right with the relationship, and you should make some changes.
Your Instinct Is Telling You Something’s Not Right
Do you know that feeling you get in your stomach when something isn’t right? Low-frequency emotions like fear and anger can start deep inside your body before they’re evident in your mind, and they’re usually a good sign that something isn’t how it should be. Your relationship should bring peace, contentment, security, and happiness.
If you feel sadness, anxiety, fear, or even boredom, something needs to change because you’re doing more harm than good to yourself at that point. When your relationship starts to change for the worst, you usually know it deep inside. You might feel antsy thinking about going home to your partner, be hesitant to spend your free weekend with them, or even stop looking forward to hearing from them.
It’s common to ignore these feelings and tell yourself that everything’s fine and you’re just being difficult. You might force yourself to be happy and continue the relationship, and this could be because you’re afraid of change and can’t imagine things being different.
You might be worried about how things will change with the children, the house, the bills, etc. Because of this, you stay with what’s comfortable and familiar. However, you can’t hide the feelings of doubt and anxiety from your body. It will let you know one way or another that you should reconsider what you’re doing.
Keeping The Relationship Alive Is Way Too Much Work
As I mentioned, every good relationship takes a lot of work and commitment. However, the work it takes to maintain a healthy relationship differs from the work it takes to keep a bad relationship going. The first one is much easier and usually doesn’t feel like work when you’re in a solid relationship. The “work” you have to do in a healthy relationship are usually things you don’t mind doing.
You might even WANT to do them because you know they will strengthen the relationship. You shouldn’t hate doing things like compromising on issues, helping them, and going the extra mile for them. The second kind of work is going to feel taxing and never-ending. This second one feels like too much effort with not enough payoff. It makes you question everything you’re doing is worth it or not.
It causes resentment toward your partner, which is a disease in relationships. Once there’s resentment, you must act quickly to get rid of it, or it’ll ruin any love still there. If you find yourself using up valuable energy on the second kind of work, that’s a big sign that you must reevaluate your romantic situation. This is especially true when only one of you puts in all the effort.
If something isn’t right, both of you need to decide to fix it and act accordingly. Sometimes relationships change for the worst, and keeping them going is too much work. Maybe you found out your partner cheated and thought you could work past it, but you just can’t. That’s okay. It could be that it’s just time to move on to the next stage of your life.
You’re Bored In The Relationship
Boredom can be a relationship killer. Remember that relationships are a two-way street; don’t expect your partner to be a mind reader. Let them know these things matter to you. Tell them you’d appreciate having a weekend date or having a nice meal. The longer you’re in a relationship, the easier it is to fall into a routine, which is usually pretty dull.
You feel like you know everything there is to know about each other, and you do the same things every day. This pattern can mentally wear a person out over time. While there’s nothing wrong with having a routine- it can be a really good thing- you need to shake things up occasionally. This goes for both of you. You each need to make more effort to break free from the same ol’ same ol’ every day.
Let your partner know you’d love for them to get the kids ready in the morning or make dinner that night. Get a sitter and go to the movies, concert, or comedy show every so often. Anything that allows you to experience new things together. If you communicate your needs and they still aren’t trying to change it up or act bored with your plan, this is an excellent time to start reconsidering your relationship.
Once boredom sets in, things can start going downhill. You or your partner might stray or want to spend more time with others, or you might begin imagining your life without them and start feeling better off without them. Trust me; boredom is not something you want to ignore. Our time on this planet is limited, and you deserve to live it fully.
You’re Mad Or Short-Tempered More Often
You would be an angel if you never snapped at your partner or fought with them. It’s perfectly normal to have days where we’re just in a bad mood and feel especially mad that day. What’s not normal is being like this more often than not. Something must change if this seems to be your default mode when you’re near your partner. Take a deep look within yourself if everything your partner does annoys you or if you find yourself constantly nagging.
It could be that you’re going through a hard time, and it has nothing to do with them, especially if they haven’t changed or gotten worse as a person. It could be a personal problem, and you’re letting all those negative feelings out on them. Your change in attitude and snappiness might be due to outside factors, like work stress, family problems, health issues, financial matters, etc. Ease some tension and stress by carving out time for a massage, hot yoga class, or meditation session.
If you can’t tell what’s causing you to feel so uneasy, consider getting a reading from a genuine psychic advisor for some answers. However, sometimes it has nothing to do with you, and it really is your partner. You need to pinpoint what annoys or angers you the most and have a calm, civil conversation with them. They may not even realize what they’re doing. Don’t force them if they can’t change or want to.
You may be better off just going your separate ways if they make you unhappy. It’s okay to have deal-breakers; everyone has their limits. Staying in the relationship and trying to shove away your feelings is bad for you mentally and physically. Sometimes people change, and you can no longer find happiness together.
The Relationship Is One-Sided
Relationships are made up of two people and require work and effort from both. The relationship is unbalanced if you’re the only one who always initiates your interactions. You shouldn’t be the first to send them sweet texts, set up dates, or call them to chat every time. Your partner must also do these things because that’s how you invest in the relationship. It’s also how you show each other that you’re thinking about each other and enjoy being together.
A relationship can also be unbalanced if your partner constantly seems too busy or tired to see you. I understand life can get in the way sometimes, but always making excuses to do things with you aren’t a good sign. In a healthy relationship, both people can compromise. For example, he goes to your friend’s dinner party with you even though he doesn’t know them too well, and you go to a car show with him even though you’re not that interested in cars.
You shouldn’t only be seeking each other out for sex if you’re trying to have a solid relationship. If you only hear from your partner when they want to sleep with you, this is a casual hookup-type situation. If you’re unhappy with that arrangement, you must let them know or move on.
You Feel Smothered
Just like some relationships fail due to lack of attention, they can also fail if there’s TOO much attention. You should feel happy and at ease with your partner, but if they’re constantly calling or texting you, it’s easy to begin feeling annoyed instead. You shouldn’t feel suffocated or smothered by your partner because this is a quick way to make you lose interest. It’s sweet that they’re always thinking about you and can’t get enough of you, but they also need to respect your time and let you breathe.
You should be doing things outside the relationship with loved ones that don’t involve each other. One of the worst things people do when they enter new relationships is leave behind all their other friends, hobbies, and interests. I know you need to spend time with your new partner, but you must keep your identity and not get lost in theirs.
Maintaining a life outside the relationship is an excellent way to ensure you don’t feel closed in and suffocated. Your partner should never make you feel bad or guilty for wanting to do something without them. If they do, this is a major red flag that they’re insecure or even controlling, and you need to have a conversation with them or reexamine your relationship.
Physical Intimacy Is No Longer Enjoyable
Unless you remain abstinent until marriage, sex is vital in healthy relationships. Being intimate makes you feel closer and builds a strong bond between two people. It should be pleasant and stress-free. It shouldn’t be uncomfortable, anxiety-inducing, or boring all the time. If you do the same things over and over again every time, you may start to lose interest. If you’re both okay with a decrease in the bedroom, then there’s nothing to worry about.
However, one or both of you usually won’t be happy about the lack of intimacy. It’s easy to feel like your partner no longer loves you, finds you unattractive, or is interested in someone else if you act more like friends or roommates than life partners. This loss of intimacy can happen for several reasons, but two of the most common are:
- You’ve gotten bored of the same routine and aren’t physically excited by them anymore
- You’re no longer happy with the relationship, but stay in it because you don’t want to disrupt your life
If it’s the first one, talk to your partner about finding new ways to make it more interesting and exciting. Brainstorm together about things you’d like to try and be clear about something you aren’t comfortable doing. Experiment together and have fun! There are plenty of ways to spice things up; you just have to do the work.
If the lack of intimacy is the second reason, you must think more deeply about this. Maybe you don’t even realize that you’re over the relationship, but your subconscious does know. In this case, your body is trying to communicate this to you by making your partner unappealing sexually. As I’ve said, you can’t fool your body; working with it and not against it is best.
It’s Okay To Get Outside Help From A Professional
If you’re unsure whether you still love your partner and want to continue being with them, consider talking to a love psychic. They can guide you to look deep within yourself and see the best course for you. Their insight and sixth sense can point you in the right direction. There is no wrong or right when it comes to relationships. Each one is unique, and not everything works for all of them.
These are just a few of the most significant signs you need to reevaluate or end your relationship. It’s your life, and you need to focus on your happiness. Don’t feel pressured by friends or family to stay in a relationship that no longer brings you joy. As I mentioned, there will be days when you’re unhappy with your partner, but they should be temporary.
If you find yourself permanently in that state, please do whatever it takes to return to your happiness. Whether that means talking it out with your partner or rediscovering yourself and being single for a while, it’s up to you, but let these signs guide you. The psychic networks below can help you decide what is best for you.