Every romantic, parental, familial, or friendly relationship requires nurturing to keep it strong and last a lifetime. Even “relationship goal” couples drive each other crazy and get on each other’s nerves- no couple is immune to that. There isn’t a single relationship that doesn’t require love, care, patience, and understanding to survive and thrive.
The moment a relationship stops having this love and care is when it goes from healthy to unhealthy. What usually happens at that point is it either becomes a one-sided relationship, or it just fizzles away and dies. It’s always a good idea to check in throughout your relationship to ensure it’s healthy. If you’re unsure or it’s unhealthy, here are five signs to see if your relationship is on the right track.
Respect is essential to any relationship, especially a romantic one. Healthy relationships and respect for one another go hand in hand. Respect in a relationship means so many things. It ranges anywhere from respecting each others’ differing points of view on certain subjects, privacy, personal space, and personal items to respecting each others’ religious, spiritual, and political beliefs.
Refraining from calling each other ugly names and getting physical or violent during arguments is another form of respect. Give each other respect and never take advantage of it. If you think ill of your partner, call them names in your head, or believe they’re “weak” when they show their sensitive side to you, you may no longer respect them. You must either get to the root of that and change it or move on.
Another critical part of a healthy relationship is the presence of active listening. Actively listening to your partner and giving them your full and undivided attention when they’re speaking to you is a sign of respect and is incredibly important. When your relationship is healthy, actively listening to your partner should come easy and feel like second nature.
Struggling to keep your attention on their words or counting the seconds until they stop talking are signs that you’re in an unhealthy relationship. Relationships that include active listening are healthier and have increased chances of lasting a lifetime. Feeling bored when your partner’s talking or finding yourself paying more attention to your phone than to them during conversations is another sign that your relationship needs re-evaluating.
A healthy relationship should never feel like work or a chore. It should be easy, and you should enjoy being in it. You should love seeing your partner and enjoy spending time with them. Maybe not all the time, though- you’re only human. It’s ok to have “off” days or days when everything they do gets on your nerves.
For most, healthy relationships are those where you look forward to being together and feeling comfortable near them. They should be your happy place, your escape from the world, your private sanctuary where you know they won’t judge you, and where you enjoy being. If you were to sit and people-watch, spotting healthy relationships between best friends, newlyweds, siblings, or parent and child would be easy.
All you’d have to do is study how they communicate, laugh, and look truly happy to be together. If the thought of seeing your partner after work is dreadful instead of exciting, or if you wish to spend your free time doing anything besides spending it with your partner, they’re probably not the one for you.
Never disagreeing or arguing in any relationship is almost impossible. The reason is that you have two unique individuals choosing to be united with their opinions, viewpoints, ethics, ideas, morals, beliefs, etc.. Logically, they’ll butt heads and not see things from the other person’s perspective every time. For this reason, you shouldn’t be afraid of arguing now and then; it’s part of a healthy relationship.
When disagreeing, you can let your point of view be known and get things off your chest. You can also create and discover greater communication and understanding with your partner if you argue and fight fairly. Resolve conflicts and arguments with care and respect; this allows your relationship to grow and evolve.
You won’t get anywhere by name-calling and being purposely hurtful. Step back and rethink your relationship if you always think and say the worst things possible when arguing with your partner. If you aim to hurt them as much as possible when you’re mad, you either have personal anger issues or could have fallen out of love with them.
Couples in healthy relationships ask each other about their lives. They genuinely want to know about their partner- how they’re feeling, dealing with, how work is going for them, how their family is doing, etc. They want to hear about each other’s experiences, achievements, and problems. You can tell your relationship is healthy when there’s interest in one another’s life.
If you only seem to talk about yourself when you’re together or find you’re just not that interested in their life outside of you, this could be a sign they’re not the one for you, and you should reevaluate your relationship. The same applies in reverse; if your partner is the one who never seems interested in your life or cares how things outside of the relationship are going for you.
Affection, understanding, unconditional love, trust, and the desire for growth and self-improvement are all parts of a healthy relationship. Relationships can develop stronger bonds and flourish if love, care, and dedication are present. Don’t be ashamed if yours could use some improvement.
Your Body Knows More Than You Think
Remember that it’s normal to question your relationship now and then. The problem is when you always feel like things aren’t right or constantly feel bad about it. When that happens, you need to look into your concerns sooner rather than later. Nine times out of ten, your gut is correct when trying to tell you something.
Still, if you don’t know how to listen or are having difficulty making sense of it all and don’t know whether to stay or leave, consider getting a love reading done by a genuine professional online psychic. They can help you make sense of your feelings and guide you in the direction best for you and your love life. Their knowledge and insight can help you make more informed decisions.