While most relationships break up for unpleasant reasons, such as cheating, jealousy, or constant arguing, this isn’t always the case. It’s common for many relationships to love each other still and end on friendly terms. That happens for several reasons, whether it be because their career or education requires them to move far away or because they have different goals and dreams for the future.
Breaking up with someone you still love, even if it’s for the best, can be extremely hard to endure. It doesn’t matter whose idea it was to end it; moving on from such an event is still tough. Please keep reading for advice on handling and moving from a breakup when you still have feelings for your ex.
Have An Open And Honest Conversation About Each Other’s Feelings
Regardless of how long you and your partner were together, deciding that a breakup is best, in the long run, can be challenging, especially when nothing seems wrong with the relationship. Sometimes, even though both love each other, one can hold the other back from other things. There are many ways a person’s partner can hold them back. Examples include:
- Professionally by not being allowed to move out of state for a job
- Emotionally if one isn’t ready to commit to a long-term relationship
- Spiritually if one partner loves traveling and the other doesn’t
- Psychologically if one wants kids and the other doesn’t
If this is the case in your relationship, you need to sit each other down and discuss it. Try to make the conversation less emotional and more logical. Logic is the best way to see what’s best for the relationship’s future because emotions can make it hard to know what you need to do. Give each other equal time to express your side and feelings without interrupting each other. Don’t blame each other; just state how things are and what you see for each other in the future.
Work Together To Set Up Boundaries
Once you’ve discussed and mutually decided you’re better off parting ways, set boundaries for each other. You can’t know how you’ll react in every situation, but laying out some basic expectations makes everything easier. Decide if you want to be in each other’s lives as friends or have a clean break with zero contact.
Discuss how you’ll tell friends and family, especially if the friends are mutual. If you’re friends with their friends or are on friendly terms with their family, discuss whether it’s ok for you to still talk to them or if they prefer you cut ties with them. If you’ve been living together or sharing belongings, plan how to divide the space and mutual belongings.
Discuss What Kind Of Distance You Need From One Another
You must keep a healthy distance from each other as you start your separate lives, even if you broke up on friendly terms. Discuss what a healthy space means for you, as this differs from couple to couple. Some exes prefer to cut off contact for at least a month to see how they feel.
Others might need to speak on the phone or text to check in on each other occasionally. Either method is acceptable if you are both on the same page. Whatever distance you agree on, ensure it’s large enough that neither of you starts feeling like you didn’t break up. There should be no confusion about whether or not you’re still a couple.
Reach Out To Friends And Family
You might need to reach out to friends and family after a breakup if you used to rely on your partner for support. Many people push their friends aside in favor of a new boyfriend or girlfriend, and while this is pretty normal, it doesn’t mean it might not be hard to get back to where you used to be with them.
Make it a habit to reach out to them for no particular reason or to check in on them randomly, not just when you need something. Tell your loved ones that you value your relationship and that they mean a lot to you. You might have mutual friends between you and your ex that you often talk to. It may be tempting to seek them out for advice, but try getting advice from someone unbiased.
They may seem genuine friends, but if they were friends with your ex before you, they might tell them things you two talk about, and it’s best if your ex doesn’t know the details of what you’re going through. Reaching out to an experienced love psychic for advice is an excellent way to work through your feelings and emotions. You can speak to them without them judging you or worrying that your conversations will somehow get back to your ex.
Accept The Situation And Move On Without Anger Or Regret
Even if it wasn’t your choice to break up or it isn’t what you wanted, you still need to accept the situation and make sure your life keeps moving forward. Don’t worry about whether you made the right choice, thinking about what could have become of you two in the future, or feeling resentful or angry toward your ex.
Respect your ex’s decision and move on with dignity and love in your heart. Focus on making your life the best it can be. Everything happens for a reason, even if you don’t know what that reason is at the time. Again, this is another area where guidance from a talented psychic is beneficial.
You probably have a million questions and may even feel like you did something wrong, but that’s probably not true. A genuine psychic can help you make sense of the situation and understand it better. That, in turn, makes it where you can look forward to your future with hope and excitement instead of sadness or anxiety.
Understand That Everything Happens For A Reason
Parting ways with someone you still have feelings for isn’t easy. Even breaking up with someone you no longer love can be difficult because of all the time spent together and getting to know each other. But if you know in your heart or they feel they see in theirs that calling it off is the best thing to do, trust that this is the case and respect that.
Be honest in your conversation to end it, and if it’s someone wanting to talk to you about ending it, listen with all your attention and try to understand where they’re coming from. Stay strong, give yourself the time you need to move on and reach out to friends and family for support. Live your life without any hard feelings or resentment in your heart.
Most importantly, don’t be afraid to give yourself time to be single and get to know yourself better. Trust me; if something’s meant to be, it will be. You never know; an extended break might be just what you both need to realize that you want each other in your lives. And if that doesn’t happen, you’re bound to find the one you’re supposed to share your life with because you’re not in a relationship with the wrong person.