Breaking Up But Still In Love? How To Manage And Move On
While most relationships break up due to unpleasant reasons, such as cheating, jealousy or even just constant arguing, this isn’t always the case. It’s actually pretty common for a lot of relationships to still have love for each other and end on friendly terms.
This happens for several reasons, whether it be because their career or education requires them to move far away, or because they simply have different goals and dreams for the future.
Breaking up with someone you still love, even when you know it’s for the best, can be one of the hardest things to endure. It doesn’t matter if it was their idea or your idea to end it, it is still really hard to move on from such an event.
This article is meant to give you advice on handling a breakup when you still have feelings for your ex and how to move on with your life.
Have An Open And Honest Conversation About Each Other’s Feelings
It doesn’t matter how long you and your partner were together for, it can be so difficult to decide that a break up is best in the long run, especially when nothing seems to be wrong with the relationship. Sometimes, even though both individuals love each other, one of them can be holding the other back from other things in their life.
It could be that one is being held back professionally by not moving to a different state for a job offer. Or they can be held back emotionally if one isn’t ready to fully commit to being in a long-term relationship, if one partner loves to travel and the other doesn’t want to as often, or if they disagree on having kids in the future, etc.
If this is the case in your relationship, you need to sit each other down and have a heart-to-heart discussion about it.
Try to make the conversation less emotional and more logical if possible. Logic is the best way to see what is best for the future of the relationship, because emotions can make it hard to see what needs to be done.
Give each other equal time to express your side and your feelings without interrupting each other. Refrain from placing blame on the other and just state things how they are and what you see for each other in the future.
Work Together To Set Up Boundaries
Once you’ve discussed everything openly and honestly, and have decided mutually that you’re better off parting ways, you then need to set boundaries for each other. Needless to say, you can’t know how you’ll react in every single situation, but if you lay out some basic expectations then it makes everything easier.
Decide if you still want to be in each other’s lives as friends, or if a clean break with zero contact is what’s needed.
Discuss how you’re going to tell friends and family, especially if the friends are mutual. If you have become friends with their friends or are on friendly terms with their family members, discuss whether it is ok for you you to still talk to them or if they prefer you cut ties with their family as well.
If you have been living together or sharing belongings, plan how you’re going to divide the space and the belongings that belong to both of you.
Discuss What Kind Of Distance You Need From One Another
It’s important that you keep a healthy distance from each other as you start your separate lives, even if you broke up on friendly terms. Have a conversation about what a healthy distance means for the two of you, as this differs from couple to couple.
Some exes prefer to cut off contact for at least a month to see how they feel, while others might need to still speak on the phone or exchange a text once a day to check in on each other.
Either is fine as long as you are both on the same page about it.
Whatever distance you both agree on though, you need to make sure that it is large enough to where neither of you start feeling like you’re not actually broken up.
There should be no confusion on whether you’re still a couple or not.
Reach Out To Friends And Family
You might need to reach out to friends and family after a breakup if you used to rely on your partner for support. A lot of times people push their friends aside in favor of a new boyfriend or girlfriend, and while this is pretty normal, it doesn’t mean it might not be hard to get back to where you used to be with them.
Make it a habit to reach out to them for no particular reason or to check in on them randomly, not just when you need something from them. Let them know that you value their friendship and that they mean a lot to you.
You might have mutual friends between you and your ex that you used to talk to a lot and it may be tempting to seek them out for advice but try your best to get advice from someone unbiased, who doesn’t know your ex.
They may seem like a genuine friend but if they were friends with your ex before you, they may tell them things you two talk about and it’s best if your ex doesn’t know the details of what you’re going through.
Reaching out to an experienced love psychic for advice is a great way to work through your feelings and emotions without worrying that it will get back to your ex and without feeling judged.
Accept The Situation And Move On Without Anger Or Regret
Even if you weren’t the one who decided that breaking up was for the best and it’s not what you wanted to do, you still need to accept the situation and make sure your life keeps moving forward. Don’t waste time worrying about whether the right choice was made, or thinking about what could have become of you two in the future, or feeling resentful or angry toward your ex. Respect their decision and move on with dignity and love in your heart.
Focus on making your life the best it can be. Everything happens for a reason, even if you don’t know what that reason is at the time. Again, this is another area where guidance from a talented psychic is extremely helpful.
You probably have a million questions and maybe even feel like you did something wrong but that probably isn’t the case. A genuine psychic can help you make sense of the situation and understand it better. This in turn makes it to where you can look forward to your future with hope and excitement instead of sadness or anxiety.
Parting ways with someone you still have feelings for is not an easy thing to go through. Even breaking up with someone you no longer love can be difficult because of all the time spent together and getting to know each other. But if you just know in your heart of hearts, or they feel like they know in theirs that calling it off is the best thing to do, trust that this is the case and respect that.
Be honest in your conversation to end it, and if it’s someone wanting to talk to you about ending it then listen with all your attention and try to understand where they’re coming from.
Stay strong for yourself, give yourself all the time you need to move on, reach out to friends and family for support, live your life without any hard feelings or resentment in your heart, and don’t be afraid to give yourself time to be single and get to know yourself better.
Trust me, if something is meant to be, it will be. You never know, a long break might be just what you both need to realize that you want each other in your lives. And if that doesn’t happen, then you’re bound to find the one who you are meant to share your life with because you’re not in a relationship with the wrong person.