Despite being ready and wanting to meet that special someone who completes you- do you still find yourself waiting? If so, it could be because you’re your biggest obstacle and often get in your own way. So why is that? Why would you be the one keeping yourself from attracting that perfect relationship that can make you happy beyond measure? One of the biggest reasons this could be is subconsciously not feeling worthy or deserving of pure and true love.
Past relationships, messages from television and magazine ads, and things people may have told you growing up affect how you see yourself. These things can lead you to believe you’re “less than” and that “someone like you” doesn’t get a fairy tale ending. You might hear these messages so often that you believe them as truths. The human mind is so powerful that once it thinks something is true, it has difficulty accepting it’s a lie.
Sabotaging Your Chances At True Love Is All Too Common
Another way you might be sabotaging your chances of attracting true love could be by having certain expectations as to how love should be. You might be idealizing and glorifying the whole situation when you meet someone and expect so much from them that you become discouraged and deflated when things don’t turn out how you dreamed they would.
When meeting someone new, it’s essential to trust in fate and divine will, but instead, most people attempt to control the outcome and try to force things to happen a certain way. A new person you meet can sniff out desperation, urgency, and anxiety. This desperation might cause them to run the other way quickly. Remember that even though having a soulmate can improve your life, happiness is your responsibility.
Other Ways You Could Be Self-Sabotaging Your Love Life
In addition to the last two possibilities, you might keep true love away by sending mixed messages to potential partners. For example, you’re romantically interested in them but act like you want to be their friend by playing hard to get. Many women love the idea of a man working hard and going out of their way to win them over, like what they show in movies.
However, this is no way to begin a relationship. It would be best to quit playing mind games and be honest with people when you have feelings for them. Or, if you’re already in a relationship with someone you like, be direct and let them know what you want from the relationship. Tell them what you see for the future of the two of you instead of just throwing out hints or expecting them to read your mind.
Expecting your partner to know what you want is the quickest way for a relationship to fall apart because not everyone can intuitively understand what you need from them. You could get frustrated that they aren’t doing things the way you like. Communication and saying what you’re feeling are crucial in a relationship.
If you need help with how to interpret your feelings for someone or are just confused in general about your love life or relationships, give a love psychic a call. Love is their specialty, and they can give you valuable insight that can answer your heart’s questions. So, how can you attract and bring authentic, honest love into your life? Below are a few ways:
Understand And Believe You’re Worthy Of Love And Romance
You deserve true love just as much as anyone else, don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. It doesn’t matter that you’ve made past mistakes or don’t have the body of a supermodel. The type of car you drive, your job, the size of your house, or the number in your bank account are all material things that don’t matter regarding true love.
People may have told you your self-worth depends on these things, but that’s untrue. Your self-worth depends on how you conduct yourself, treat others, and how pure your heart is. Everything else is irrelevant; if you’re a good person, you deserve to love and be loved.
Remove Toxic People From Your Life
Don’t be afraid to walk away from people who only seem to bring you down. You might feel like the people getting you down are correct and that you need to listen to them, but the only person you need to listen to is yourself. You and only you should be the judge of you. Do things that make you proud and lift you. Never lower your standards or put up with something you disagree with just to be accepted.
The right people will never make you dislike yourself, be unhappy with your life, or do things you don’t want to do. Don’t spend time with someone you don’t feel has a beautiful soul just because they are popular and well-liked. Often, people like that thrive off of having people around them that they can take advantage of to feel better about themselves. Be your own kind of strong and beautiful!
Make Yourself Your Top Priority And Honor Yourself At All Times
No matter your flaws- everyone has them, even if you can’t see them- don’t let them define you. Learn to be proud of yourself and who you are, even in adversity. Stop viewing your flaws as a disability and view them as unique characteristics that make you who you are. What a boring world it would be if everyone were perfect! Uniqueness is what makes the world varied and exciting. Also, what you may view as a flaw, others might see as really cool!
Scars show the hurt and pain we’ve experienced and that we lived to tell the tale and rise above it. You’re still alive; you still exist- that is beautiful! If you’re overweight, don’t compare yourself to others who aren’t. Instead of being upset about it, turn that anger and energy into something productive and challenge yourself to make healthier choices. Overcoming personal challenges you set for yourself gives you a fantastic sense of pride. Remember that you only have this one body- worship and take care of it!
Like Attracts Like
If you’re optimistic and confident, you’ll be more likely to attract positive and confident people into your life. Likewise, if you’re pessimistic and insecure, you’ll attract the same and be in the same sinking ship. An upbeat person doesn’t want to be brought down by a pessimist. They want to associate themselves with others who have a zest for life and love themselves—someone with whom they can lift each other higher.
You deserve the same, don’t surround yourself with people who don’t want the best for you or themselves. Think of everything you enjoy and engage with people doing the same things. Love reading? Join a reading club. Love running? Join a running club. Love dancing? Join a dance team. By putting yourself out there, you’ll meet like-minded individuals and gain confidence as you get better and better at the activities you love.
Work To Overcome Any Jealousy Issues You May Have
Jealousy is a powerful feeling that can take over your mind quickly, so it’s ok if you struggle with it. What isn’t ok, however, is accepting it and not wanting to do anything to change it. It can be hard to overcome, but it’s worth putting in the work to do away with it. Jealousy often stems from feelings of insecurity or being cheated on in the past.
If you’ve been hurt and lied to before, your mind will put up a wall to protect you, but this wall could end up hurting you. When you’re jealous, you’re likelier to create scenarios that don’t exist, and your imagination can get the best of you. This paranoia pushes partners away because they feel you’ll never fully trust them. Unfortunately, you can’t have a relationship without trust- at least not easily.
If your jealousy issues stem from a past relationship and you don’t deal with them, they can send shockwaves through any connections you have afterward. They are a powerful psychic force that you must work through. Don’t punish new relationships for what happened to you in a past relationship. If your jealousy stems from insecurities, work on loving and accepting yourself. Raise your self-esteem and self-confidence.
Take Advantage Of The Power Of Affirmations
When repeated and believed in, affirmations are positive statements that help you achieve your dreams and goals. When you recite them with intention, they slowly replace old negative thoughts with new positive ones. Just as your subconscious has believed all the negative things it’s heard, it can also believe any positive things you go out of your way to tell it.
Repeating uplifting words and phrases reprograms your mind to act according to what it hears. Your mind may resist you at first because it’s so used to hearing otherwise, but with patience and practice, it will start to work with you. Stop and flip the script the next time you find yourself saying something negative about yourself or your life.
For example, if you’re looking in the mirror and notice that you’re criticizing yourself, stop and begin complementing the things you do like about yourself. Don’t just say affirmations in a hurried and boring way, though. Instead, choose and repeat each affirmation with intent. Using healing crystals while repeating affirmations helps magnify the affirmations, so this is an excellent time to bring them out.
Some of my favorite affirmations are:
- “No matter what, I deserve love, and I open my heart to it.”
- “I’m a good person and attract healthy relationships.”
- “I fully trust the process of life.”
- “I’m can conquer anything and am at peace.”
It Might Not Be Easy, But It’s So Worth It
Cleansing your body and mind of all the false thoughts and ideas people have told you and you’ve believed about yourself won’t be easy. Just like removing jealousy takes a lot of work, so does replacing the negative things you’ve taken as truths with new, positive ones. However, it’s the best thing you can do for yourself if you want to find your Prince Charming. Also, remember to set realistic expectations and always be honest and upfront when sending messages to people you’re interested in.
Every new year allows you to improve yourself. When people think of new goals or resolutions, they usually think about getting their bodies healthier, but I like to start by making my mind healthier. If you need to make life changes but don’t know where to start or what to do, don’t be afraid to get advice from a talented psychic. Regular psychic readings have helped me achieve amazing and positive changes within myself. Life can be confusing; let’s use all the help to live the best possible!